When others know everything better: How to strengthen your self-confidence

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When others know everything better: How to strengthen your self-confidence

It's one of those golden autumn days. The sun tickles your nose. Goodbye woollen stockings, ballerinas once again hola! And a situation that tested my confidence: My girlfriend and I grabbed our boys to take them for a spin around the playground. During the short stop at the traffic light, the sun shines briefly in the kids' faces. I'm happy about the weather and beam with it. My friend immediately puts the roof of the stroller as well as a cap over her son's head - then looks at my son full of pity and says. "You've got the sun shining in your face. Didn't Mommy bring a hat for you, you poor thing?" - My self-confidence is severely shaken.

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What is self-confidence?

"The bad thing about inferiority complexes is that the wrong people have them."

Jacques Tati

The term self-confidence is used almost inflationary in this day and age. But what is self-confidence anyway? Can you learn this and if so, how do we succeed? We would like to answer these questions in detail in this article.

First, let's take a look at what the actual definition of self-awareness is. Self-awareness is the recognition of one's own personality and, in connection with this, all abilities, traits and emotional state.

Self-awareness thus answers the question, "Who am I and how do I feel right now?" Furthermore, our self-awareness affects our self-confidence. The latter decides, for example, whether we are more optimistic about the future or rather driven by fears and worries that push us to the ground.

The most common signs of low self-esteem

  • Envy & Resentment Towards All
  • Courting for attention
  • procrastination
  • Stooped posture
  • No eye contact in conversation
  • Depressive moods
  • Not representing one's own opinion
  • Negative beliefs
  • Pessimistic world view

Do you know any other signs of low self-esteem? How do you think low self-esteem can affect your life? Feel free to write us your opinion in the comments.

Strengthen your self-confidence

What kind of guy are you: Do you not resonate with advice at all? Or is the opinion of others even very important to you? Our coaches Walter Hommelsheim and Christina Grahn-Hommelsheim Have a great tip for you on how to boost your confidence. Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Why do I feel insecure?
  • Where in my body do I feel the insecurity?
  • Does the uncertainty show up in colors or do you get a picture with it?
  • How do you know the feeling of Uncertainty?

"This is a wonderful exercise to learn to listen to your heart more again. To go through life with confidence. Who hasn't had the experience of being given advice that doesn't feel good to you?", Christina Grahn-Hommelsheim knows all too well from her own experience. "You get to learn to let go, to trust your instincts. Say goodbye to your old beliefs. Stay with yourself and listen to your heart!"

If you can do that, you have the foundation to build a strong sense of self. Once you have that foundation, you hold the future over your personal happiness in life in your hands. And here the motto is "Sky is the limit." (only the sky is the limit). So don't be afraid to walk this path, take your destiny into your own hands and become the designer of your life through an iron self-confidence.

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12 tips for more self-confidence

"The only way to be happy is to be happy with yourself, not with what others think of you."

Goldie Hawn

Can you learn self-confidence? The answer: Yes! But you have to get out of your comfort zone and face your inner demons. Because only then will you beyond you Grow and become the best version of yourself.

Get out of your comfort zone

Example: Don't dare to apply for the leadership position? Don't hesitate! Now it's time to get out of your comfort zone and go for it.

Face your fears

Example: Afraid to speak up to your life partner? Do not be afraid, because the truth is the best medicine.

Accept challenges

Example: Unsure if you should pursue further education because you have a busy schedule? Don't hesitate, because now you have the opportunity to grow.

Take care of a better posture

Example: Stand with your back against a wall, push your chest forward and breathe deeply. Notice how your posture alone increases your self-confidence.

Develop positive beliefs

Example: In your vocabulary, the most important word from now on is "yes". Because with an affirmative mindset you promote positive beliefs.

Reward yourself for your successes

Example: When you reach a special milestone (website built), feel free to reward yourself with something (weekend getaway).

Have the courage to make mistakes

Example: No one is perfect. The next time mistakes creep into your workday, that's OK. No one will judge you for it.

Always stand by your opinion

Example: You have a different opinion than your boss? That's okay. Have the courage to stand by your opinion.

Dare to say "no" once in a while.

Example: If your boss asks you again at work if you're working through the weekend, then you should get up the courage and say "no".

Trust in your abilities

Example: You have abilities that make you stand out from other people. Become aware of these abilities and stand out.

Realize, "You are special."

Example: Now take a piece of paper and write down 20 things that make you special.

The most important at a glance: What are the benefits of a strong self-confidence?

"True beauty is knowing yourself and believing in yourself."

Rita Ora

What does a strong self-confidence bring? What advantages does it have? Do I really need it or can't my life just go on as before? Below we have listed 7 benefits that a strong self-confidence offers you for your life.

7 advantages of people with a strong self-confidence

  1. Have more success at work
  2. Better love relationships
  3. Stand up for their opinion
  4. Do not have Fear from errors
  5. Accept challenges
  6. Going the extra mile in life
  7. Feel far happier

As you can see, a life with self-confidence offers many advantages for your own existence. We would like to help you to develop a strong self-confidence. And that's why we have prepared an exciting video on this topic that you can watch now.

How do you recognize confident people?

"Self-confidence is the ability to feel like an original, even if you're just a carbon copy."

Victor De Kowa

A self-confident person recognizes that he communicates honestly and directly what is on his heart. He feels at peace with himself and does not think it necessary to pretend to please other people.

Stepping out of the comfort zone

A confident person does not make himself comfortable. He Constantly leaves the comfort zonein order to grow personally. He faces challenges with self-confidence.

Living in no dependence

People with a strong sense of self are their own boss. They do not need anyone to tell them whether to go left or right. They go their own way.


Even if the circumstances do not allow to hope for a positive result, self-confident people stay on their course. A lack of resources does not let them lose sight of their goal.

Do not need confirmation

A self-confident person has recognized his own value. He does not need permanent confirmation from the world around him. Even if this is completely absent, a person with high self-confidence remains goal-oriented.

Dealing with setbacks

Setbacks are a part of life. Every person with a high level of self-confidence knows that. And that's why setbacks don't stop a self-confident person from going their own way in life.

Positive Mindset

Self-confident people have a positive mindset. They see things optimistically. This optimism gives them strength to go through difficult times.

Are not "yes men"

A person with high self-confidence stands by his opinion. He does not immediately fall down when there is some headwind in life.

Why do some people have low self-esteem?

"Once you trust yourself, once you know how to live."

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

No human being is born with low self-esteem. As a rule, our childhood is decisive for whether we are self-confident or not. Because as children we are basically blank slates. So if we are confronted with negative experiences or strokes of fate at a young age, then low self-confidence can result.

The early death of a parent of a parent can have a noticeable effect on our self-esteem. Another factor can be difficult life circumstances or strokes of fate such as living in poverty or wars. Abuse in childhood is of course also a common reason why people develop low self-esteem later on.

But often our conditioning also determines whether we develop a strong or weak self-confidence. If, for example, as a child we were repeatedly told Beliefs If we were taught beliefs that prevented us from developing freely, the result was low self-esteem. These beliefs usually came from our parents, teachers or the people in our immediate environment.

Common beliefs that affect our self-confidence:

  • "That's not what a man/woman does."
  • "A degree is the most important thing in life."
  • "You shouldn't be too rebellious."
  • "Better stay well-adjusted and don't antagonize."
  • "Hold your opinions sometimes."
  • "All men are intrinsically evil."
  • "Are you sure you can really do this?"
  • "In life, always take the safe path."
  • "Don't show your feelings to anyone."
  • "Recognition is important in life."

Self-confidence: stand by yourself and your opinion

"Humble can only be the people who have enough self-confidence."

Gabriel Laub

There is nothing you can do to stop the meddling of others - until they check their beliefs. For some, it is their passion to meddle in the affairs of those around them to distract from themselves. But by being clear about yourself and your opinions, you also make yourself less vulnerable to these situations in life.

You would like to get your Strengthen self-confidence? You want to build a positive self-confidence? We would like to support you on this path. You have it in your hands to steer your life in the desired direction.

We hope that we could support you at least a little bit with this article. One thing we are also very sure of: You have the Potentialto create greatness. We believe in you. Now it's up to you to believe in yourself too and develop such an iron self-confidence.


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