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Wheel of Life Relationship: The 8 pillars of a happy partnership

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Wheel of Life Relationship: The 8 pillars of a happy partnership

The Wheel of Life Relationship helps you to lead a happy partnership. But what makes a happy partnership in the first place? Which areas lead to a lasting happiness in love?

We would like to tell you the answer to these questions in this article. Today we show you how you can use the Wheel of Life relationship to lead a happy and fulfilling partnership.

By the way, the relationship wheel of life is an interesting coaching tool that helps you figure out exactly how to work on specific areas of a relationship. 

That's what love is: that two lonely people protect and touch and talk to each other.

Rainer Maria Rilke

Let's first take a look at the first pillar in the relationship wheel of life - Communication!

Let us say in advance: communication is not a one-way street. It must be equally open on both sides in a relationship. Is a open communication the relationship is built on a solid foundation.

If both sides fail to ensure open communication, the relationship is in danger. Because unclear communication leads to disagreements. Disagreements lead to arguments. Disagreements lead to frustration. And frustration that builds up over months often leads to a painful breakup.

However, a painful breakup can be avoided if open communication is the foundation of the relationship. This is the be-all and end-all for clarity. Because often we talk past each other in a relationship.

So what should be avoided? Here are several negative qualities to avoid in communication. These include passivity, detachment, accusations, ignorance, exclusion and all other characteristics that stand in the way of open communication.

The most important thing in this context is honesty. How exactly you can combine honesty with communication, we would like to tell you in the next point.

Honesty - Wheel of Life Relationship Pillar 2

It must come from the heart what is to work on hearts.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The second pillar in the Wheel of Life relationship is honesty.

You're making mistakes. Your partner makes mistakes. Every human being makes mistakes. Because nobody is perfect. That is perfectly normal and is part of our nature.

Surely you also have negative qualities that bother your partner. It is up to you to decide how to deal with these negative qualities.

Do you talk to your partner about it? Do you swallow your frustration? Or do you constantly blame your partner? Do these accusations turn into arguments that put you both at a distance from each other?

When there are disagreements in a partnership, the best way is to be honest with each other. Address problems and look for solutions to find ways to strengthen the partnership.

However, honesty does not mean banging your fist on the table, exposing your partner with harsh words or insulting them personally. Quite the opposite. Constructive honesty requires tact.

This tact is a prerequisite for working effectively on a relationship. Once you succeed in this, your partner will develop a deeper understanding for you.

Your relationship will grow, you will become happier, and you will move into a positive future together. So if there is a challenge in your relationship again soon, then seek the honest conversation.

Independence - Wheel of Life Relationship Pillar 3

There is no freedom without mutual understanding.

Albert Camus

Next, let's look at the third pillar in the Wheel of Life relationship: Independence.

A good relationship means going through life together. At the same time, it doesn't mean that you can't have your own life. Quite the opposite.

For healthy relationship important to have their own hobbies, interests and circle of friends. After all, this independence gives you the freedom to devote yourself to topics that your partner does not share.

And that is perfectly fine. However, men and women often make the big mistake to fully subordinate themselves. Put their own interests behind, so as not to hurt the partner.

In most cases, this leads to a lot of subconscious frustration, which in the worst cases builds up over several years. At some point this frustration is discharged in quarrels, whereby many relationships go to pieces.

For this reason, it is immensely important to pursue your own interests in life. However, this does not mean that you can not share common hobbies, interests and friends with your partner.

It just means that you can, may and also should take time for yourself even in a relationship. Because there remains enough time that you can spend for your partner to spend beautiful moments together.

What about you? Do you always put your interests on the back burner? Do you have a goal that you still want to achieve? Or are you already independent in your relationship?

Cohesion - Wheel of Life Relationship Pillar 4

Freedom is like the sea: the individual waves cannot do much, but the power of the surf is irresistible.

Vaclav Havel

Next, in Wheel of Life Relationship, we turn to the topic of cohesion.

Over time, every relationship faces challenges. Disagreements or personal strokes of fate can cause the relationship to stumble. And these have an immense effect on the togetherness.

It is precisely at this point that it is important to promote cohesion. Because in a good partnership you always walk the path together. And that also includes overcoming challenges together.

For example, if your partner has lost his or her job, is at a dead end in life, or has to cope with a stroke of fate (e.g. the death of a loved one), then it is your duty to support your partner.

Because all of us have phases in which we need a little tailwind, support or a shoulder to lean on. This applies equally to men and women.

So don't let your partner down when things are going badly for them. If you stick together, you will find solutions that will help you get through life together and overcome challenges.

Common goals - Wheel of Life relationship Pillar 5

The aimless man suffers his fate. The purposeful one shapes it.

Immanuel Kant

Continue with the pillar common goals in the wheel of life relationship.

Previously, we talked about the importance of having your own goals, interests and hobbies in life that have nothing to do with the partnership. However, this is only half the truth.

It is also important to have common goals, hobbies and interests. In this context, you should ask yourself what connects you and your partner. On what level are you attracted to each other?

It is a good idea to sit down together and write down on a piece of paper all the goals, interests and hobbies for which you share the same passion.

In a subsequent conversation, concrete goals usually emerge that you can achieve together. In this way the bond between you is strengthened. Your love becomes stronger. The connection becomes more intimate.

The best thing is to sit down with your partner tonight. You'll be thrilled to see what interesting insights emerge that you can grow from together.

Recreation - Wheel of Life Relationship Pillar 6

There is a time for work. And there is a time for love. That's all the time you have.

Coco Chanel

Leisure activities also play a major role in the wheel of life relationship.

Do you remember back to when you first met your partner? You spent a lot of time together, did interesting things and constantly tried new things.

This dynamic is lost in many relationships. And there are several reasons for this. On the one hand, comfort creeps into many relationships. Suddenly you're sitting on the couch every night watching movies.

On the other hand, you feel secure and no longer feel the desire to invest in the partnership. And this is a big mistake, which has already caused many relationships to fail.

For this reason, you should ask yourself what measures you can take to bring more pep back into your relationship. What can you do to rekindle the fire of passion?

How about a holiday of a special kind? A nice hobby that brings both of you closer together again? Again, you can sit down with your partner and think about what you can do to bring more fire into your relationship.

Romance - Wheel of Life Relationship Pillar 7

The kiss is nature's endearing trick of interrupting a conversation when words become superfluous.

Ingrid Bachmann

Romance is an important area in the relationship wheel of life. How exactly you can maintain the romance, we would like to tell you now.

The beginning of any relationship is marked by numerous romantic moments. These moments become less and less from year to year. This happens especially when everyday life slowly creeps into the relationship.

Yet magical moments are immensely important for a relationship. Especially to maintain the fire of passion in the long term. And therefore it is important to create such magic moments in a relationship.

When was the last time you had a magical moment with your partner? When was the last time you had those famous butterflies in your stomach? Has it been a long time since you experienced such a moment?

The important thing to do in this context is to sit down with your partner and ask yourself what you can do to rekindle the fire of passion?

Like to collect ideas. Think about dates you've always wanted to do. As you collect ideas, you'll realize how many more great things there are to make your relationship deeper and more intimate.

Sexuality - Wheel of Life Relationship Pillar 8

Through the passions man lives, through reason he merely exists.

Nicolas Chamfort

For many couples it is normal. But there is also a reason for this. Because sex is always preceded by seduction. However, many people no longer have the intention to seduce their partner properly. They feel too secure about their sexual attraction.

That is, of course, a big mistake. Because good sex is always preceded by seduction. And therefore it is immensely important to seduce the partner every time anew to keep up the flame of passion.

In addition, it is important to talk openly about sex with your partner. To talk about preferences and new possibilities. Because basically every man still has fantasies that he would like to live out.

A clarifying conversation can be very helpful in this context. Therefore, have the courage to talk openly with your partner about what you expect from him and also have an open ear for him.

What makes a healthy partnership?

You've probably guessed it already. A happy relationship starts with yourself. Because if you are not at peace with your own personality, then you can not be happy in love life.

So that you too can lead a healthy relationship in the future, we have prepared an exciting video with the top speaker Tobias Beck for you at this point.

It's worth watching! In this video, the popular top speaker tells you how you too can have a healthy relationship that will help you in the long run and help you increase your quality of life.

YouTube video

A happy partnership is not a matter of course

In this article you have learned which areas belong to a fulfilling partnership. With the relationship wheel of life you can find out which areas you can still work on.

How exactly you apply the wheel of life, by the way, you can read about it in this article. There you will find exact step-by-step instructions on how to use the Wheel of Life relationship for your situation.

We wish you a lot of fun and hope very much that you will soon have the partnership that you have always longed for. Because with the right person at your side, life is much more fulfilling.

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