What's a mindset? Have you ever asked yourself this question and dealt with the answer vividly ? Only when you know what a mindset really is can you take steps to improve your quality of life.
A mindset is basically made up of thoughts that are deeply anchored in our subconscious due to our experiences.
Here we must ask ourselves whether these are positive thoughts that have a positive effect on our quality of life. Or are they thoughts that prevent us from living a happy and fulfilled life?
In this article we would like to show you how to influence your mindset to get rid of negative beliefs and develop positive ones that improve your quality of life in your personal and professional life.
What is a mindset?
"Watch your thoughts, for they become words, watch your words, for they become actions, watch your actions, for they become habits, watch your habits, for they become your character, watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. - Talmud
A mindset is an inner attitude, way of thinking, world view or philosophy of life. Our mindset therefore has a great influence on how we see the world and interact with it.
So our mindset determines our Actions and emotions in certain situations. The related reactions are shaped by experiences that we have gathered in the past.
Below we have listed several examples of negative or positive mindsets. These are areas that have a lasting impact on our lives.
In which of these areas do you find yourself?
Examples of a negative mindset
- "I deserve to be unhappy and therefore I deserve my present fate."
- "Somehow I'm a freak and an oddball who will never be accepted by his environment."
- "I'll never achieve financial freedom and will therefore always be a small cog in the wheel."
- "The others are much better than me, so I don't try to be special."
- "I have bad genes, so I'll never have the dream body I want."
- "Everyone is better than me and that's why I'll never find a partner who loves me unconditionally."
- "I'm at the mercy of my past and therefore nothing in my life will ever change."
Examples of a positive mindset
- "I deserve to be happy and to shape my destiny as I see fit."
- "At work, I display the self-confidence necessary to achieve my professional goals."
- "I am proud to be an exceptional person and I will fulfill myself."
- "My will decides over my body. I shape my body the way I want with ambition.
- "I am the master of the moment and I will not let defeat deter me from my aims."
- "My charisma determines my attractiveness. And that is why I will find a partner who loves me."
- "I lead a self-determined life and do not let myself be distracted and restricted by the environment."
How a mindset influences our lives
"If everything seems to be against you, remember that a plane takes off only against the wind and not with the wind." - Henry Ford
What is the reason that people who have had similar life experiences develop differently? What role does the mindset play in this? And what can you do to make the best out of your life?
To answer this question, we would like to tell you the story of Jonas and Andreas in the following. Both had similar experiences in life and yet their lives developed in completely different directions.
What was the reason for that? Why did Andreas and Jonas develop a different mindset, even though they had almost the same experiences in life?
How Jonas spent his life
Jonas has not had an easy life. He grew up the son of a single father. His father hung on the bottle every day and every time he got drunk, he accused his son of being a loser.
On some evenings, when it was particularly bad, Jonas got a severe beating. The next morning he had to endure the mockery of his classmates, covered with bruises.
As Jonas grew older and did not progress in life, he remembered his father's words: "You're a loser. You'll never amount to anything. You're a disgrace to our family."
Jonas gave up. He no longer bothered to make anything of his life. He made the decision to quit and not to become the designer of his life.
Instead, he followed in his father's footsteps. He started drinking, blamed the world for his living conditions and constantly nagged his son.
His mindset: "I'm a failure. I'm never gonna do anything with my life. The people around me are to blame for my living situation. So why should I bother to make anything of my life?"
How Andreas designed his life
Andreas also grew up as the son of a single father. This was also a strong alcoholic who took out his frustration on an innocent child.
Every time the father was drunk, he accused his son of being a failure. He made it clear he'd never go far in life.
As Andreas grew older and faced some challenges, the words of his father came back to his mind. "You're a loser. You're never gonna do anything with your life.
Andreas, however, had only a tired smile for his father's accusations. Instead of exposing himself to the adversities of life, Andreas decided to take his fate into his own hands.
For in the course of his life he was influenced by a very specific advertising poster on which was written "You are the designer of a lifetime." Andreas took this slogan as his life maxim.
Despite numerous problems and challenges he finished his school with full success. He then studied architecture. Today Andreas is a successful architect, happily married and father of two children.
His mindset: "I am the architect of my life. I decide my own fate. I face the challenges of everyday life with success."
A different mindset can arise from the same situations
"You have to die a few times before you can really live." - Charles Bukowski
You know what the interesting thing about this story is? Jonas and Andreas are brothers. Twins. They received the same upbringing, in which they were physically and mentally maltreated by a cruel father.
Why did the lives of the two brothers develop so differently? What was the reason that Jonas threw in the towel and Andreas took the reins and determined his own fate?
The answer is obvious: The mindset!
Now, before you read on, you should ask yourself if you too are a negative mindset that helps take your life in an undesirable direction.
Practice: Just take a moment. Put a sheet of paper at your fingertips. Take a few minutes and immediately write down all the beliefs that you think will harm your personal happiness.
3 methods to develop positive beliefs
The 9 question model
With the 9-question model you can put your mindset in a new frame. You are welcome to take a short moment now and do the exercise immediately. Take a sheet of paper and a pencil and you can start right away.
The 9-question model helps you to better grasp your negative beliefs and then dissolve them. In this way you create the basis for a better and more fulfilled life.
The nine questions are:
- How exactly do your negative thoughts limit you in your everyday life?
- Do you really want to continue to hold on to your negative beliefs?
- Are you absolutely sure that your negative thoughts correspond to reality?
- Why do you believe that your thoughts correspond to reality?
- Is the negative thought only valid for a certain situation or for all areas of life?
- How do you know that your negative belief system corresponds to reality? Do you have proof?
- What would your life be like if it were the other way around?
- Have you been able to gather evidence to refute your negative beliefs?
- Are you familiar with people who are in the same situation? Who are struggling with the same problems? But have a different way of dealing with the problem?
Future Pace: A look into the future
At this point we would like to devote ourselves to a technique from NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). NLP is basically a collection of different language and communication techniques with which internal programs can be controlled.
Through a Future Pace you put the focus on the future. You ask yourself what your mindset and life would look like, if you had freed yourself from all negative beliefs.
How exactly you execute a Future Pace, you will now learn.
Step 1: Determine negative beliefs
Write down all negative beliefs that limit your quality of life. You are welcome to distinguish between different areas of life. For example profession, love life, friendships.
Step 2: Looking to the future
Now imagine what your life would be like if you continued to hold on to this negative mindset. How would you feel? Would you be unhappy? Write down all the negative emotions that are connected to it. Write down the negative beliefs.
Step 3: Sharing beliefs
Now it is a matter of sharing your negative beliefs to program a positive mindset.
Example of a negative belief system: ,"I have not attended university, therefore I do not have sufficient education and therefore I will never have a career".
Example of a positive dogma: "I have studied real life. I'm able to draw on my experience and that's why I'm going to make a career."
Step 4: Another look into the future
Now you shall venture another look into the future. Ask yourself how your life would look like if you had already integrated your newly developed beliefs into your life.
What would your life be like? What emotions would you feel? Write down your feelings and try to empathise with them at the same moment. Feels good, doesn't it?
Often it is not enough to determine beliefs in order to create a positive mindset. And that is why we need an "amplifier" to call up the feelings we want.
Affirmations are one such amplifier. An affirmation is an affirmative statement that refers to a factual situation. How exactly anchoring via affirmations works, you will now learn.
Step 1: Determine positive beliefsn
Determine in the first step positive beliefs that improve your quality of life. You can also focus on different areas of life such as work, love relationships or friendships. Here are a few examples.
Career: "I have all the necessary potential inside me to become financially free."
Love: "I am worthy of being loved unconditionally by my partner."
Friends: "I bring people into my life who make me happy."
Step 2: Repetition
According to various studies, the human brain needs between 30 and 60 days to anchor a new mindset in the subconscious.
For this reason, you should sit down at your desk briefly every morning before you leave the house for the next 30 to 60 days.
Then you take a pen and paper and write down each positive statement of faith at least ten times. The whole process should not take longer than ten minutes. And you probably don't need that much time either, do you?
What is mentality?
What does mentality have to do with Mindset? Just like Mindset, the term mentality describes a mental attitude. Surely you know statements like: "But he has a spirited mentality. Or: "Wow. I have rarely seen such a respectful mentality in a human being."
Basically, a person's mentality is derived from a mindset that persists over a long period of time. So if you, for example, constantly carry negative thoughts with you, you will radiate them. Your environment will perceive this negative energy and react to you accordingly.
For this reason it is especially important that you anchor positive beliefs in your consciousness, so that a positive mindset is created, which ultimately contributes to a positive mentality.
In order for you to succeed, we have prepared 12 beliefs for you in the following, which should help you to develop a positive mindset and thus a positive mentality.
12 dogmas for a positive mindset
"We become what we believe." - Earl Nightingale
In order for you to develop a strong and confident mindset, we have prepared a list of positive beliefs for you. The list refers to different areas of your life, which are related to more self-confidence to help.
"The only person who decides if I'm happy is myself."
"Self-love is love for all people and animals around the world."
"I enrich the world by bringing my self-love to the world."
"Since I'm a good person, I deserve to be loved."
"I'm attractive and incredibly comfortable in my body."
"Since I am desirable, I choose the right partner for my life."
"Financial freedom is the mirror of my inner freedom."
"Success is about trusting your own abilities."
"Even with setbacks, I always remain positive and optimistic."
"The responsibility for my life is in my own hands."
"No matter what people around me think about me, I go my own way."
"I am an enrichment to the people around me."
Conclusion: With a positive mindset you increase your quality of life
"If you can dream it. You can do it." - Walt Disney
We hope that this article has given you some important insights for a positive mindset that will improve your quality of life.
We also recommend that you repeat the exercises from this article in the near future. In this way, you will internalize the positive beliefs and improve your mindset.
But what happens now? What steps towards a happy and fulfilled life should you take next? I personally have made the experience that I have always developed best when I have faced my inner demons.
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