Mindset: Lead a happy and fulfilled life now

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Mindset: Lead a happy and fulfilled life now

What is a mindset? How does it influence your personal happiness? Do you go through life with a positive or negative mindset?

Have you ever asked yourself these questions and thoughtfully considered the answer? Only when you are aware of what a mindset really is, can you take steps to improve the quality of your life.

A mindset is made up of thoughts that are deeply embedded in our subconscious based on our experiences.

Here you may ask yourself whether they are positive thoughts that have an affirmative effect on your quality of life. Or are they thoughts that prevent you from living a happy and fulfilled life?

In this article, we want to show you how to change your mindset to transform negative beliefs into positive ones. Look forward to the change to increase your quality of life in your private and professional life.

What is a mindset?

, "Watch your thoughts, for they become words, watch your words, for they become actions, watch your actions, for they become habits, watch your habits, for they become your character, watch your character, for it becomes your destiny." - Talmud

A mindset is an inner attitude, way of thinking, worldview or philosophy of life. Our mindset therefore has a great influence on how we see the world and interact with it.

According to this, our mindset influences our Actions and emotions in certain situations. The reactions associated with this are shaped by experiences we have gathered in the past.

Below we have listed several examples of a negative or positive mindset. These are areas that have a lasting impact on our lives.

Which area do you find yourself in most of the time?

Examples of a negative mindset

  • "I deserve to be unhappy, and therefore I deserve my current fate."
  • "Somehow I'm a freak and an oddball who will never be accepted by those around me."
  • "I will never achieve financial freedom, so I will always be a small cog in the wheel."
  • "The others are much better than me and that's why I don't try to be special in the first place."
  • "I have bad genes and that's why I'll never have the dream body I want."
  • "Everyone is better than me, and that's why I'll never find a partner who loves me unconditionally."
  • "I am at the mercy of my past and therefore nothing will ever change in my life."

Examples of a positive mindset

  • "I deserve to be happy, and I am free to shape my destiny as I see fit."
  • , "On the job, I display the confidence necessary to achieve my professional goals."
  • "I'm proud to be an exceptional person and I'm going to put myself out there."
  • "My will decides my body. I shape my body the way I want and I do it with ambition."
  • "I am the master of the moment and I do not let defeat deter me from my goals."
  • "My charisma determines my attractiveness. And that is why I will find a partner who loves me."
  • ,,I lead a self-determined life and don't let the environment distract and limit me."

Did you know? 97% of our thoughts are according to studies negative. This is exactly the reason why we should increasingly focus on a positive mindset. 

How a mindset influences your life

,,When everything seems to be against you, remember that an airplane only takes off against the wind, not with it." - Henry Ford

What is the reason that people who have had similar life experiences develop differently? What role does mindset play in this? And what can you do to make the most of your life?

To answer this question, we would like to tell you the story of Jonas and Andreas. Both had similar experiences in life and yet their lives developed in completely different directions.

What was the reason for this? Why did Andreas and Jonas develop a different mindset, although they had almost the same experiences in life?

What course Jonah's life took

Jonas didn't have it easy in life. He grew up as the son of a single father. His father was hooked on the bottle every day and every time he got drunk he accused his son of being a loser.

Some evenings, when it was particularly bad, Jonas got a severe beating. The next morning, covered in bruises, he had to endure the ridicule of his classmates.

As Jonas grew older and was not getting ahead in life, he remembered his father's words: "You're a failure. You'll never amount to anything. You're a disgrace to our family."

Jonas gave up. He no longer bothered to make anything of his life. He made the decision to quit and not become the designer of his life.

Instead, he followed in his father's footsteps. He began to drink, blamed the world for his circumstances, and constantly nagged his son.

His Mindset: "I'm a failure. I will never make anything of my life. The people around me are to blame for my situation in life. So why should I bother to make something of my life?"

How Andrew shaped his life

Andreas also grew up as the son of a single father. He was also a heavy alcoholic who took out his frustration on an innocent child.

Every time the father was drunk, he accused his son of being a failure. He gave him to understand clearly that Andreas would never get far in life.

As Andrew grew older and struggled with some challenges, his father's words came back to him. "You're a failure. You'll never do anything with your life."

Andreas, however, had only a weary smile for his father's reproaches. Instead of facing the adversities of life, Andreas decided to take his fate into his own hands.

Because in the course of his life, he was influenced by a very specific advertising poster that read: "You are the designer of your life." Andreas took this slogan as a maxim for his life.

Despite numerous problems and challenges, he finished school with full success. Andreas then studied architecture. Today he is a successful architect, happily married and father of two children.

His Mindset: I am the architect of my life. I determine my own destiny. I face the challenges of everyday life with success."

Different mindsets can arise from the same situations

"You have to die a few times before you can really live." - Charles Bukowski

You know what the interesting thing about this story is? Jonas and Andreas are brothers. Twins. They experienced the same upbringing, in which they were physically and psychologically abused by a cruel father.

Why did the lives of the two brothers develop so differently? What was the reason that Jonas threw in the towel and Andreas, on the other hand, took the reins in his own hands and determined his own destiny?

The answer is obvious: The Mindset!

Now before you read on, ask yourself if you too are a negative mindset that is contributing to your life moving in an undesirable direction.

Practice: Take a moment to do that. Get a pen and paper ready. What beliefs can you think of that are currently holding you back from personal happiness? For example: "I can't do it", "I'm not good enough!", "I will fail". Which sentence blocks you and does not bring you into action?

The 9 questions model

We would now like to introduce you to three methods with which you can develop positive beliefs. With the 9-question model, for example, you can put your mindset into a new framework. You are welcome to take a few moments and do the exercise right now. Take a sheet of paper and a pencil and you're ready to go.

The 9-question model helps you to better understand your negative beliefs and then dissolve them. In this way you create the basis for a better and more fulfilling life.

The 9 questions are:

  • How exactly do your negative thoughts limit you in your daily life?
  • Do you really want to keep holding on to your negative beliefs?
  • Are you absolutely sure that your negative thoughts correspond to reality?
  • Why do you think your thoughts correspond to reality?
  • Does the negative thought apply only to a particular situation or to all areas of life?
  • How do you know that your negative belief is reality? Do you have any proof?
  • What would your life be like if it was the other way around?
  • Have you been able to gather evidence that disproves your negative belief?
  • Do you know people who are in the same situation? Who are struggling with the same problems? But have a different way to deal with the problem?
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Future Pace: A look into the future

At this point we would like to dedicate ourselves to a technique from NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). NLP is basically a collection of different language and communication techniques that can be used to control inner programs.

Through a Future Pace, a popular method from NLP, you focus on the future. In doing so, you ask yourself what your mindset and life would look like if you specifically worked on your beliefs that prevent you from being happy and fulfilled. successful to be.

Now you can find out how exactly you execute a Future Pace.

Step 1: Determine negative beliefs

Write down all negative beliefs that limit your quality of life. Feel free to differentiate between different areas of your life. For example: Work, love life, friendships.

Step 2: Look to the future

Now imagine what your life would be like if you continued to hold on to this negative mindset. How would you feel? Would you be unhappy? Write down all the negative emotions associated with it. Write down the negative beliefs.

Step 3: Review & Transform Beliefs

Now it's about reviewing and transforming your negative beliefs to develop a positive mindset.

Example of a negative belief: ,'I didn't go to university, so I don't have enough education, so I'll never have a career."

Example of a positive belief: "I have studied real life. I am able to draw from my experiences and that is why I will make a career out of it."

Step 4: Vision - your view into the future

Now I want you to take another look into the future. What is your vision? Ask yourself what your life would look like if you had already integrated your newly developed beliefs into your life.

What would your life look like? What emotions do you perceive in your body? Write down your feelings and try to feel them in the same moment. Let them be there and expand more and more in your body. How does it feel?


Often, determining beliefs is not enough for a positive mindset to emerge. And that is why we need an "amplifier" to call up the feelings we desire.

One such reinforcer is affirmations. An affirmation is an affirmative statement that refers to an issue. Now you can find out how exactly anchoring via affirmations works.

Step 1: Determine positive beliefs

Determine in the first step positive beliefs that increase your quality of life. You can also focus on different areas of your life, such as your job, love relationships or friendships. Here are a few examples.

Career: "I have all the potential I need to be financially free."

Love: "I am worthy of being loved unconditionally by my partner."

Friends: "I attract people into my life who make me happy."

Step 2: Repetition

According to various studies the human brain needs between 30 and 60 days to anchor a new belief in the subconscious.

For this reason, every morning for the next 30 to 60 days, before you leave the house, sit down briefly at your desk.

Then take a pen and paper and write down each positive belief at least ten times. The whole process should take no longer than ten minutes. And you can probably spare that time, too, right?

What does mentality have to do with mindset?

What does mentality have to do with mindset? The term mentality, just like mindset, describes a mental attitude. Surely you know statements like: "He has a temperamental mentality". Or: "Wow. I have rarely seen such a respectful mentality in a human being."

Basically, the mentality of a person results from a mindset that persists over a longer period of time. For example, if you constantly carry negative thoughts around with you, then you will also radiate them. Your environment will perceive this negative energy and react to you accordingly.

For this reason, it is especially important that you embed positive beliefs in your consciousness to create a positive mindset that will eventually contribute to a positive mentality.

To help you do that, we've prepared twelve beliefs below to help you develop a positive mindset and therefore a positive mentality.

12 Beliefs for a Positive Mindset

"We become what we believe." - Earl Nightingale

To help you develop a strong and confident mindset, we have prepared a list of positive beliefs for you. The list refers to different areas of your life that can help you to more self-confidence help you.


"The only person who decides if I'm happy is myself."

"Self-love is love towards all people and animals in the whole world."

"I enrich the world by putting my self-love out into the world."

Lucky in love

"Since I am a good person, I deserve to be loved."

"I'm attractive and incredibly comfortable in my body."

"Because I am desirable, I attract the right partner into my life."


"Financial freedom is the mirror of my inner freedom."

"Success is having confidence in your own abilities."

"Even with setbacks, I always stay positive and optimistic."


"The responsibility for my life is in my own hands."

"No matter what my environment thinks about me, I go my own way."

"I am an asset to the people around me."

Conclusion: With a positive mindset you increase your quality of life

"If you can dream it. You can do it." - Walt Disney

We hope that in this article you were able to gain some important insights for a positive mindset that will increase your quality of life.

We also recommend that you repeat the exercises in this article over time. This way you will internalize the positive beliefs and improve your mindset.

But where do you go from here? What steps towards a happy and fulfilled life should you take next? 

If you too want to dissolve inner blockages, create a positive mindset and develop personally, then we have a really great gift for you.

Today we would like to invite you to the 7-Day Vision Challenge with Greator coaches Walter and Christina Hommelsheim. In this free 7-day training you will not only learn how to develop a positive mindset, but also how to get one step closer to your personal happiness.

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