Have you ever wanted to change something in your life? And I'm sure you've also found out that it's not that easy. "I know this very well," Viktoria Schretzmayer expresses her sympathy. At the "New Faces Night" at the Volksbühne am Rudolfplatz, she spoke about wishes and beliefs. "Pretty much a year ago I was faced with the decision: Do I stay in my safe job or do I jump into the deep end, into self-employment? I chose the latter." Nonetheless, it was a longer journey.
"Various beliefs danced a tango in my head".
Why? "Let me rewind a few years: I was a permanent employee, in a management position. I was paid a good salary and drove a company car. For many years, I loved that job. Various beliefs danced a tango in my head. My ego liked it too, because I had an important position. But that voice inside me got louder and stronger. Because I had always had the dream of being independent. For a long time, I told myself: "What I'm doing now is like being on my own. But that was only half the truth.
The desire for my true Self-realization was getting bigger and bigger. So I embarked on my inner journey: What do I want? What does my heart feel? And who am I? I love to inspire people, to work with them, to motivate them. Along the way, I trained as a spiritual coach and was already working as one. But too great was the fear of losing my Leaving comfort zone with job security. There I rested well and put my dream in the second row. I drove with the handbrake on. That was frustrating!"
"My beliefs were slowing me down".
Until Viktoria Schretzmayer gathered all her courage to quit. "After eight years, I didn't want to just walk out on the company. So I decided to tell my boss before the weekend, on a Friday. I was so proud of myself. However - just two weeks later, I was back on the job. I withdrew my resignation. Because I had gotten scared. My beliefs were slowing me down. For safety, I stayed with the company."
Detach yourself from your beliefs
What happened at that moment? Viktoria's mind had her in the palm of its hand. Because he loves routines and security. Maybe you also know situations in your life where nothing felt coherent anymore? "So over Christmas, I booked a seven-day trip to Thailand. There I holed up in a monastery to meditate. When I got back home on December 30, I knew: "I can't go on like this! Vicky, you're taking control of your dreams now. You're going all in!'" says Viktoria Schretzmayer about her decision. She had decided to detach herself more and more from her old beliefs.
"I made a contract with myself that there would be no more excuses for anything I wanted or wanted to do. No more waiting. No more procrastination. I had done that long enough. At the beginning of January, I had €0 in sales. Today, nine months later, I'm living my dream. I'm giving workshops and talks, writing ebooks, coaching. And I quit my job for real this time!"
4 Steps - this is how you put your new belief into action!
"Now I'm standing here on stage. And all of that was far from my imagination that I could do this. What did I do differently? I took action! 'Just do it' is my new belief system.
Step: Deal with yourself! Take a few minutes each day to deal with your desires. And do it in writing. Because writing has a completely different power than just having things in your head.
I acted intuitively. Start with small steps - whether they are things that bring you joy, that come easily to you, or that do you good. The big changes are the sum of all the small steps in advance.
Face your fears. Show yourself as you are! Stay confident. Don't be afraid of rejection or judgement.
Work with your own limitations and beliefs. Your Self-doubt is the wall between the old life and the new. No one stands in your way like you stand in your own way.
"Don't believe everything you think!"
Do you know Pippi Longstocking? She's the one who came up with the brilliant line, "I'll make the world as I please!". But she also said, "I've never tried that before, so I'm sure I can do it." What do we say instead:
I've never done this before!
I'm too old for this.
I'm too young for that.
"But you can do so much more!" encourages Viktoria Schretzmayer. "You are so much more awesome than you think. Give yourself a high five and say:
'I'm great and I believe in myself!'
I've had these beliefs over and over again, too. They're ancient. But I just got tired of letting them hold me back over and over again. Because a dream of mine was to be on stage too!"
Your versetand doesn't like change
Our average lifespan is 80 years. The time you have left - how do you want to use it? Do you want to dwell on your self-doubt - "I can't do that!", "I can't do that!" - or do you want to make your dreams come true? Why is change so difficult for us? The only thing that is stopping you is your mind. It doesn't want change. It sends the old beliefs to you:
my fear of being dismissed
to show myself with my work
the fear of speaking in front of people
These are all Beliefs in my head," admits Viktoria. In English, they say "monkey mind". It means something like "the restless mind", a carousel of thoughts. "I find the idea that there's just a monkey up there keeping us from taking action extremely amusing. As soon as you take the first step out of your comfort zone, the monkey throws the old thoughts at you again.
Embrace old beliefs and make your dreams come true!
But: Do you want to stop yourself from realizing your dreams? The next time fears and doubts come up again, remember this monkey! You will encounter him again and again in your life. Accept him lovingly and tame him. Still, make your dreams come true."
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