When you think back to your childhood, how many events come to mind that may still be shaping you today? Perhaps it is a situation in particular in which you, as a little girl or boy, did not feel seen, perceived or loved. But which belief did your inner child decide for itself at that very moment? And is it possibly still thinking this thought today...? In this article we don't just want to tell you about the inner child. We would also like to show you how you can get in touch with it (again).
Inner child: what is it?
Wikipedia says: "The inner child belongs to a model way of looking at inner worlds of experience. It denotes and symbolizes the feelings, memories and experiences from one's own childhood stored in the brain. This includes the whole spectrum of intense feelings such as unbridled joy, abysmal pain, happiness and sadness, intuition and curiosity, feelings of abandonment, fear or anger."
In the training to become a Greator coach, you learn, for example, in the method of the Lying Eight, how to get closer to your inner child and thus to your stored memories and feelings. Because we are convinced that you have already experienced challenging situations that you encounter in the here and now in your childhood in a very similar way. This moment has shaped you in this way. To this day, you react in certain moments with fear, loss of control, or feeling unseen. Your inner child made a decision for itself from the formative situation at that time, found a set of beliefs, which may still be expressed today through a body symptom or a certain Feeling in you when something similar happens to you.
But just because this is still blocking you today, doesn't mean it's set in stone. Therefore: Be brave, meet your inner child and dissolve old beliefs and blockages that you manifested for yourself in your childhood. Forgive the people who may have been involved in the situation and let go! Let go of the past. Forgive! You can learn how to do this in the following video. There you will find a beautiful meditation on the topic of "feeling and healing the inner child".
Recognize and embrace your inner child
The experiences, memories, patterns, and behaviors (both good and not so good) that we have accumulated within us since childhood, the child we once were - all of these together are called "the inner child." U.S. psychologist and author John Bradshaw coined the term. According to his observations and research, our inner child is often potential and limitation at the same time.
We store good experiences that inspire us. But we also store the less good experiences, hurts and memories that inhibit, block and limit us. Our task as adults is to recognize and accept our inner child and to heal it from its hurts.
5 steps to find and heal your inner child
The first step to healing is your realization that you want to change something. We would like to give you five steps to find and heal your inner child.
Bringing the unconscious into the conscious: The most important step is to bring the unconscious into consciousness. That means: First of all, you should recognize behavioral patterns and the associated early childhood imprints.
Perceive what you feel and think: Do you keep having thoughts like, "This is all so unfair," or "No one understands me," "I always have to justify myself"? Ask yourself if you want to continue to behave or consciously feel the way you do following these thoughts. Do you want to continue to feel angry about the person's behavior for days after a disagreement? Or do you want to explore what exactly triggers you about it?
Question, what your inner child longs forand think about when and where you first felt this feeling. Did you perhaps not feel sufficiently heard and understood as a child? Can you think of a specific situation? Example: Your mother once got angry because you stirred spoonfuls of cocoa into milk. You had a plan: You wanted to make a bar of chocolate for everyone. But your mother wouldn't let you explain. Today you laugh about it. Has the negative imprint still remained?
Giving the inner child what it needsIf you feel that your inner child wants to be heard and understood, close your eyes now and imagine yourself as a small child. You may see yourself as a small child in your inner eye. Speak to it with pleasure. And ask it what it would have liked at that time in the situation. Give yourself attention, love or a hug.
Make a new decision: Surely you could find out by now which belief set your inner child met at that time. Decide now whether you still want to give attention and belief to these old thoughts. Or if you want to decide for a new, affirming belief.
Making peace with the inner child
Establishing contact with the inner child is a key point in the Greator Coach Training with Christina and Walter Hommelsheim. This can be done through regressions, conversations, Meditations or other (psychotherapeutic) methods. "The only thing that heals our inner child is love. And that is love for ourselves," says Coach Christina. "Open up to your Self-loveby integrating them more and more into your everyday life. By doing something good for yourself, taking time for yourself, becoming aware of your strengths ...!" she recommends.
Healing old wounds in the here and now
Depending on the topic, the inner child shows itself to the client at different ages during a coaching session. These images are not something he makes up, but his soul communicates very precisely with the help of these reflections. "The soul desires development and the coach or therapist is the tour guide to this blind spot," write Christina and Walter in their book "Heart Over Head - The Simple Formula for a Happy Life". "The inner child protects the blind spots for a reason. Because it doesn't want to experience the fear again, which it tries to prevent through its strategies. It's as if the inner child takes over as soon as the button is pressed that is linked to the situation at the time," Walter explains.
The soul desires development.
Christina & Walter Hommelsheim
Of course, there are also formative situations in the adult life, but often the pain is related to an older wound that is only touched upon in the present. All these links shape the psychological glasses we wear.
Hero Story: How Klaudia Healed Her Inner Child
When Klaudia's parents retired, she took over the family business. At the same time, her big dream was to stand on the stage and Inspire people with their voice. Now, however, life had taken a different direction for her. As the years went by, Klaudia noticed that day by day she was unhappy was. But she didn't dare tell her parents that she actually wanted to be a singer. In her head, she heard her father's voice every time, who had drilled into her from an early age, "You have to carry on the family legacy. Otherwise, I would be very disappointed in you."
Klaudia was also disappointed. Disappointed that her father always told her how his daughter had to live her life. That's why she withdrew further already in early childhood. But it could not go on like that. So Klaudia mustered all her courage and confronted her father with her feelings that had been building up her entire life. "Papa, I love you. But I can't go on like this. The company is your dream. Not mine. I want to be on stage. Sing and share my love with the world."
After Klaudia had spoken these words clearly and honestly, she felt free for the first time in years. Her Smile returned. She brought the dreams, desires and goals of her inner child to the surface and thus more clarity in her life. Over the next few months, she searched for a suitable successor for the Management. Then she began her own journey. The journey of her inner child. And from that moment on, happiness returned to Klaudia's life.
What's your strategy?
A strategy, according to the dictionary, is a "precise plan of conduct designed to achieve a (military, political, psychological, or similar) Achieve goalby trying to take all factors into account from the outset." Have you ever caught yourself manipulating those around you with your behavior? You're trading a certain behavior pattern for a behavior you hope to get? You trade performance for recognition. Or being good for love.
What is your strategy - maybe still today? Be honest with yourself and be aware of it. If you honestly reflect on yourself, you may also notice that you only exhibit this behavior in the presence of certain people. Why? Perhaps they reflect the behavior or the Relationship between you and your parents again...
Behavioural patterns of your inner child
Can you still remember how you tried to get attention from your parents, your friends and your environment as a child? Which of these strategies do you (still) use today?
Were and are you sweet, good and nice? Or rather the rebel? Did you use the performance strategy or were you near perfect? Maybe you got attention from friends or neighbors by being sick a lot. Possibly you lived in your very own dream world where you felt safe and comfortable? Did you care about others and want to save them so you could "be"?
You see: There are so many strategies. These become our behavior patterns - and thus part of our personality. But maybe you are ready to choose new behaviors. Ones that will help you Lightness bring. With which you communicate authentically and stay with yourself. In the here and now.
Heal inner child: 3 exercises
As we mentioned above, it is possible to heal your inner child to stop going through life with the old beliefs that block you. Here are three exercises to heal your inner child.
1. heal your inner child with meditation
Meditating regularly is a wonderful way to not only meet your inner child again. There are many guided meditations that will take you on a journey to your inner child. Heal and embrace it. Free yourself from blockages and old beliefs. As you meditate, you will gradually come closer and closer to your inner child, depending on your current relationship with it. Maybe at first you can only perceive it in the form of a figure. Or you feel that it is there. Open yourself to the encounter with the inner child, gently lure it out of its reserve, for example by calling out to it - as with a small child who is playing hide and seek. Be patiently. And look forward to the moment when you meet each other.
2. keep diary
It might help you to reflect on and write down situations that keep recurring and trigger you. The following questions could help you to achieve clarity:
How old were you in that situation?
Who else was with you?
How did you feel?
What conclusions did you draw for yourself from the formative situation?
In what moments does this feeling or belief show up today?
And is this belief really true?
Are you ready to give the person from back then forgive and let go? If not, what else is needed for this? Perhaps a letter, to the person ...
3. heal the inner child with coaching
At life coaching of Greator by means of the method of the Lying Eight you are given the perfect opportunity to heal the situation not only superficially. H you really go into the depth. A coach "dives" with you into the moment and guides you through it by means of a questioning technique. In this way, as an adult, you feel once again for the little child how it felt at that moment and how it felt about the situation.
How to find your life vision
Where do you want your journey in life to go? What do you really want? What goals do you want to achieve? What kind of person do you want to be? We would like to accompany you on this path.
Now when you get really hungry in your Change something in lifethen find out about our training to become a Greator coach. You know now what a great influence positive as well as negative beliefs on your entire life. However, always be aware that ultimately only you decide what you believe in. It is possible to transform negative beliefs. Admittedly, this requires courage and perseverance on your part. However, it is worth taking the necessary steps.
To support you on your way, we recommend our Greator Coach Training. Find outWhat really drives you, what your true goals are and what fears and beliefs are blocking you. This kind of Self-awareness is elementary to let go of negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones. Only if you know where your goal is, you can create the right conditions.
Greator Life Coach Training: Look forward to taking inventory of your life
Your trainers Walter and Christina Hommelsheim show you step by step how to spice up your life. How much energy do you put into your job or your relationship? What are you missing? Maybe it's friendships, maybe relationships - you can only find out if you start taking stock of your life now.
Find out in the training what really drives you, what your true goals are and which fears as well as beliefs block you. This kind of Self-awareness is elementary to let go of negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones. Only if you know where your goal is, you can create the right conditions.
You will see how quickly you get clarity for more and more areas in your life. And above all: How you come closer to your visions step by step. You have probably never before dealt with your visions in such detail. Beliefs and fears ... Open yourself to it! Look forward to wonderful Meditationsthat will pick you up where you are right now. Does this sound interesting to you? Here you can find more information about the Greator Coach Training.
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