There is a well-known study that says that we make 95 percent of all decisions based on our gut - no matter who we are. According to this study, life is all about moving your gut. Entrepreneur and author Walter Kohl knows: "When we understand this, then joy of life arises. Then the mixture of personal responsibility and the feeling of being able to do something arises. And that means that we can also overcome our inner bastard." Do you sometimes lie in bed at night and wonder what you lived for today?
This way you will immediately achieve more joie de vivre
Those who feel this feeling frequently reach a point where they fundamentally question where their joy has gone. Walter Kohl: "You ask yourself whether you are only functioning, whether you are a robot. You think about everything that was bad. And then comes the spiral." Dhe downward spiral, mind you. But it doesn't have to be! Instead of thinking of your frustration, of bad or sad situations, you should look at what gives you joy of life. Walter Kohl reveals what this can be in his five tips for more joie de vivre. Are you ready? Let's do it!
1. do something useful for joie de vivre
The first tip for more joie de vivre is quite simply to do something meaningful. Walter Kohl: "There are examples of meaningfulness everywhere. We can find meaning particularly well in two places: Firstly, in the love of a person - for example, when a child is born and all the rules of the game suddenly change. But there is a second field in which we can find meaning: When we do something for other people or for peace." The expert recommends doing things you can be proud of: "This is a rejection of fanaticism and all forms of dogmatism. This is humanism."
Surely you also know people who are really dedicated to their work. Who are committed and enthusiastic about their cause. How do they manage that? Most likely because they do something useful. The opposite of doing something meaningful, by the way, is to run after the expectations of others. Walter Kohl: "If you want to please others and take care of everything but yourself, that's a ticket to the abyss. If we follow the expectations of others to please, we end up in a dead end." Yes, other people's expectations are important. But they're not masters of your soul. And the art of politely but firmly saying no should be a school subject according to Walter Kohl.
2. for joy of life: love someone
The first question that you are certainly asking yourself now is: Who? Walter Kohl gives the answer: "Well, first of all, yourself. Find and love yourself! You don't have to be a narcissistic personality for that. And then ask yourself if you treated the people you love right yesterday. If that is the case and you can answer with a smile, everything is fine. If the answer is no, then do something. Now this day!"
Loving someone, by the way, starts with taking responsibility for your own feelings. Self-love in the right dosage is essential so that we can give this love to others. The other way round is also true: Only those who give love get love. Walter Kohl: "But love is not a deal. If it were a deal, it would be conditional. And conditional love is something terrible, these if-then stories. Actually it's not love, but emotional blackmail. If people have conditional love as the basis of a relationship, it's not a relationship, it's a syndicate at best."
3. believe in something
We are enlightened, reasonable and rational. But what do we believe in? What does it actually mean to believe in something? Walter Kohl: "For me, belief means: knowledge without proof. I look at a situation or a person and my belief does not have to be backed up by knowledge. It is simply secured by the feeling that I associate with this person. And I find it terrible when we forbid ourselves to believe, because we find it childish. To believe in something is not to be naive."
The opposite position of faith lies in measuring, counting and weighing. Walter Kohl: "This is not wrong in principle, but many things are beyond the measurable. How do you want to measure responsibility and reliability? How do you want to measure the important things that bring us together as human beings or make us what we are?" The big challenge is to find the right balance. The expert finds: "Especially when we have experienced disappointments and situations in which our faith has been shaken, we must not give up, but rather repair that faith. The greatest pain offers at the same time the place of greatest healing and greatest potential."
4. hope active - Joy of life will come
To actively hope is the opposite of the thought "Someday it will be like this". Walter Kohl: "Just do it! Get up and move your ass! Because you have only one excuse and that is your own inertia. Either you find new answers or you're washed away by circumstances." The question is simply, who's at the wheel of your life? The circumstances or yourself? If you actively hope, you don't have to withdraw into supposed truths like 'dreams are foams' or similar sayings. Have dreams, but don't lose yourself in them! Have goals, but let them be SMART: specific, measurable, accepted, realistic and scheduled.
5. you are ok
Ultimately, it's about being who you are. Do not pretend, but develop your personality! The absolute poison pill is to compare yourself. Some people are always in a good mood. This is because these people do not compare themselves, but are happy with what and who they are. Walter Kohl puts it wonderfully to the point: "Don't let memory monsters depress you. Find out which things create joy of life for you personally. Write them down and look at them every day. Make something of your life and be grateful that you can live in a free and peaceful country."