Have you ever assembled anything in your life? I'm sure you've seen it before: You spend hours and hours on end, going over instructions and tinkering until it fits. And then late at night you look at the finished piece of furniture with pride. "Hand on heart: You will remember the great feeling that comes when you have finally done it," Andreas Woltemath knows all too well from his own experience.
"We are actually specialists in putting things together that also belong together," says Andreas Woltemath. In October, the speaker was a guest at the Speakers' Night at the Volksbühne am Rudolfplatz in Cologne. "Only in our world do we use components far too often to construct theatres or aircraft. But in coaching, I notice again and again that we too seldom or not at all put together the elements that can create something wonderful within ourselves."
Andreas Woltemath: "Find your source of strength in life crises“
With this "wonderful" Andreas means a motivation, something we absolutely need when we set out on the path to our goals or dreams. "Many of us simply stop on the way there. Some do not go any further. That's when you need a motivation, a strength. I mean a pull that can pull you out of a life crisis. A deep force that comes completely from ourselves - that makes it possible to survive illnesses," the speaker clarifies.
„Gather your moments of happiness„
What Andreas Woltemath means exactly by this, he makes clear by means of a story: There was a farmer. He lived in a village. Today, he would be called an ass because he made everyone feel his displeasure. But one day he was one of the happiest people. His secret? "Every morning when I get up, I take a hand full of white beans and put them in my pocket. At first, I didn't even notice the beautiful moments in my life. So I first collected the lucky bean moments. Like the singing of the bird on the roof or the nice word from the neighbour. The lovely smile of my children I carry in my heart and the nice look of my wife, it carries me through the day - if I ever get it. And at the end of the day, just before falling asleep, I take all the beans out of my right trouser pocket, count them, remind me, so that I can feel the happiness and joy. With that happiness, I fall asleep and wake up again."
Andreas Woltemath: 3 steps to your personal happiness
You too will soon be able to hold your personal happiness in your hands and feel it in your whole body. Andreas explains how in 3 steps.
- Step: He who knows his goal knows his way. Define your goal carefully. Define your position. Ask yourself what skills you still have to acquire to reach your goal.
- Step: Pay attention to your thoughts: We absolutely need our thoughts, formed cleanly and mindful. From this we let our goal arise. Pay attention to the words with which you form your goal: I will achieve something.
- Step: Add a suitable feeling of happiness to your goal, which you remember several times a day, and which you can feel everywhere in your body. We need our feeling to be successful in this training.
Andreas Woltemath: "What is your goal?“
"Last year, I went with a woman who had cancer. She is the best example of what each of us can achieve with this new mindset," says Andreas. In addition to the disease, she also had a genetic defect that prevented the chemotherapy from working properly. "At the moment, the doctors are at a loss as to how they can help me at all without killing me immediately," his client said. "And I am desperate and hopeless." Andreas asked her about her goal.
Happy beans for more strength, hope and confidence
The woman replies that she wants to make the time she has left as beautiful as possible. "No, that's a shitty goal", Andreas replies honestly. "Who are you going to allow when your life is over? Why don't you decide that for yourself?" She looks at Andreas questioningly at first. With a smile on her face comes the answer. "I will live to see my twins 18th birthday. That's another five years!" Together they searched for happy bean moments from which to draw strength, hope and confidence. And find various.
Let the most difficult life situations give rise to new ways
A short time later, Andreas Woltemath's client was already much better. Not physically. But mentally. Hope and strength return. Unfortunately, she did not manage to celebrate her children's birthday with us. Nevertheless, she experienced the time left to her full of strength, hope and confidence. She passed away in October 2019: "I am just thankful that I was able to work with her and gain this experience. I would like to share with you the experience that you can shape even the most difficult life situations in such a way that hopelessness becomes hope. That out of powerlessness becomes strength. And out of hopelessness new ways arise. You always have something with you that will help you: This is your feeling, your life fuel. Our fuel. Remember the time when you were really in love. Did someone have to sleep? No!"
Meditation journey to your happiness
Andreas Woltemath knows a great meditation, with which you can not only feel your moments of happiness but also use them as a "spare canister" for bad times.
You can sit down for this. Take a moment and pay attention to your breathing. Breathe deeply and calmly in and out. Slowly close your eyes. Close your right hand into a fist. And now you go on a journey of thoughts: Remember a moment of happiness. Slowly raise a little finger. When the little finger is up: Are you alone or are there nice people around you? Take a look. While doing so, slowly lift your ring finger up. When it is up, observe the colours of your memory. Are they bright? Raise your middle finger slowly. Look at the light at this moment. Is the sun shining, is it bright? Now slowly raise your index finger. What can you hear? The sound of the sea? The wind in your ears, a beautiful song? Raise your thumb slowly.
When you are completely in this moment, feel inside yourself: What is this feeling? Where do you feel it? Flood your body with this beautiful feeling! And now imagine that you would embrace this feeling. Hold it tight! And take it with you. This is your life fuel. Take the feeling with you and slowly open your eyes again. Think of it as your reserve canister to save you from your misery.
A really great exercise, isn't it? You can use it whenever you feel like you're running out of life force. What exercises and meditations do you know to recharge your energy? We are looking forward to your feedback!