Self-confidence: How to gain it and become strong

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Success stories often start with strong self-confidence - the belief in your own abilities. However, if you are plagued by insecurities and doubt yourself, don't worry: it's never too late to boost your self-confidence and come into your full power. In this article, you will find out what self-confidence is, which factors influence it and how you can build it up in a targeted manner.

Definition: What is self-confidence?

Self-confidence refers to the trust in one's own abilities and skills to overcome challenges and achieve goals. It arises through positive experiences and mastering tasks that strengthen confidence in one's own ability to perform.

What influences our self-confidence?

A person's self-confidence is shaped and strengthened by a variety of factors. These include not only personal experiences and successes, but also external influences such as the social environment and the type of support one receives throughout life. Each of these factors can have either a positive or negative effect and significantly influence how secure and self-confident we feel in different areas of life.

  • Experiences in childhoodPositive feedback and support promote healthy self-confidence.
  • Successes and failuresOvercoming challenges strengthens confidence in one's own abilities.
  • Social environmentSupportive relationships and constructive feedback have a positive effect on self-confidence.
  • Self-awarenessA realistic self-image helps to recognize and accept strengths and weaknesses.
How to gain more self-confidence

How can you build self-confidence?

To strengthen your self-confidence in the long term and develop a deeper sense of inner security, you can work specifically on various aspects of your thoughts and actions. By consciously setting and achieving goals, leaving your comfort zone and having a positive inner attitude, you can gradually improve your self-image. Here are some effective measures that can help you do this:

Physical activitySport not only promotes health, but also self-confidence.

Set goalsDefine clear, achievable goals to create a sense of achievement.

leave the comfort zone: Take on new challenges to expand your skills.

Self-reflectionAnalyze your successes and learn from failures in order to grow continuously.

Positive self-talkReplace negative thoughts with encouraging statements.

Exercise: How to gain more self-confidence!

Close your eyes. Make yourself comfortable on a chair. If any thoughts come now, let them pass like a cloud. For the next three breaths, focus entirely on your body. And stay there. Now think of a situation in your life where you trusted (yourself) and were rewarded for it! What was it? A sense of accomplishment in sports? A super good graduation from school? A mega good bachelor thesis? A promotion at work? Think about your sense of achievement! How did you feel at that moment? Let that feeling come back to you. The joy, the happiness, a tingling in your belly - whatever may show up now! Let it expand in your whole body!

Without forgetting this feeling, you now open your eyes again. And it is precisely with this emotion in you that you approach the next challenge strengthened - full of self-confidence. Because you can do it! You have already done it once (or several times) and proven it.

Why is self-confidence important?

Our self-confidence can only grow if we find solutions, develop ourselves further and realize that we can create something. It is therefore important that we do not let our own Perfectionism block, but dare something. Your body will store this energy in you when you experience success and link it to a new experience.

As soon as you use your room for maneuver instead of timidly backing yourself into a corner, you feel your Self-efficacy. You realize that you make a difference with your actions, that you can change things and thus shape your life yourself. Even if things don't go as planned: You learn to believe in yourself. This way you will gain more and more self-confidence. At this point you can also ask yourself the question: Do I really believe that I grow every day?

When we allow our own growth, nothing stands in our way. Detach yourself from the Fearthat something could go wrong. Or do something completely new: Embrace your fear. Talk to it. Look at it. You will see that it will gradually become smaller if you allow it to be there and show itself. Dare to really live your life!

Tips for building self-confidence

As with so many things, practice makes perfect. Or: A package is thrown at your feet until you unwrap it and look at the contents. To stay with this image: You will repeatedly encounter situations in your everyday life that put your self-confidence to the test. Now it's up to you: Are you acting in the old or the new you? Don't be disappointed if everything doesn't work out right away. How do you say Laura Malina Seiler always so nice: "A success is a success, is a success.

The coach knows: "You may find the courage to dare new things. Through this you gain the knowledge: Who courageously goes forward, dares new things and meets challenges, grows so beyond himselfthat he can be full of confidence in his own abilities. That's what gives you confidence in the end!"

Self confidence with Laura Malina
Laura Malina Seiler is a coach and author.

In 3 steps to more self-confidence

Self-worth and self-acceptance are close, says Laura Malina Seiler. She tells you how to become a better person in three steps. Self-esteem come. "So take back your power and let go of everything that weighs you down!" is the message from the bestselling author of "May You Be Happy!"

  1. Self-acceptance: I am just right the way I am!
  2. Responsibility: I am powerful!
  3. Let go: I forgive!

Do you want to develop your potential? Then take a look, what other skills are waiting for you in our soft skills list.

An exciting journey to more self-confidence

We hope that this article has answered many of your questions about self-confidence. Of course, it's up to you whether you want to Self-confidence want to win. You decide how you want to live your life, in which direction you develop - and which opportunities you tackle!

Everyone struggles to gain more self-confidence from time to time. But self-esteem predators lurk everywhere. Find out how they trigger you less and less and how you can develop yourself further at Greator. In our Self-Awareness Webinar you learn how to develop yourself. Positive feelings bring you forward - not only in your private life, but also at work. In this way, you will be able to strengthen your self-esteem on your own initiative and with professional support.

With the right tips you will find your way to more self-worth and self-determination. Recognize through more and more your strengths to increase your self-worth - and get the best out of you!

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