"In the past, I couldn't have imagined standing on a stage today. The fear of failing, having a breakdown or being laughed at was too great. In fact, that's exactly what - the stage - has been part of my daily vocation for many years: And I love it!", Christina Grahn-Hommelsheim (46) reveals quite openly during her appearance at the Speaker Nights at the Volksbühne am Rudolfplatz in Cologne. In her speech, the coach talked about fear of loss and her new beginning and how you too can manage to become self-confident. Learn more now!
What did Christina do to get Fears to overcome them and become more self-confident? She looked at them and managed more and more not to let them block her. "I think we all have these fears. It's what binds us together. But you can't let them slow you down from living the life you actually want. These fears are personality-dependent, for sure. But almost all of them arise in our childhood," Christina knows from experience. Her fear of loss is no exception.
In her childhood, the coach experienced violence, sexual abuse, and a mother who was completely overwhelmed was. Christina constantly had a fear of loss, the feeling: "I'm not really supposed to be there!" Nevertheless, there was one person in her childhood who gave Christina Grahn-Hommelsheim support: her dad. In his presence she had the feeling that she was allowed to be who she was.
Then there was this one night. Tuesday night. Nine o'clock. Christina is 15 years old and putting her little sister to bed. The doorbell rings. Her grandma is standing there, breaking the news of her father's death. "I felt like it was all over at that moment. I'm falling and falling and falling. There were only two choices for me:
My mother assured us that we could do it as a team and stick together," Christina remembers very well many years later. So she fought.
A few months later, Christina's sister entered an asthma boarding school and her mother had decided to start a new life in Spain. "And I was left alone in that house. The only refuge I had at that moment was my parents' business. I took it over when I was 18. Because giving up was out of the question for me. For my age, I was very self-confident at that moment. Even though I had a lot of fears. At the same time, I studied business administration.
The following years Christina lived fully in her pattern: "Somehow I have to manage this!" It worked out: the balance sheets got better, employees could be paid, she drove a fancy car and owned a great house. "But I was totally miserable on the inside. I had a really blatant eating disorder and was depressed, had panic attacks," the author speaks of "Heart Over Head - The Simple Formula for a Happy Life". quite honestly about her past.
One day Christina finds herself in hospital. A doctor stands before her and makes a clear announcement: "If you continue like this, you will only live a few more years!" This moment the young woman awake: at the age of 25 she put her energy into all the trainings around personal development. Christina would like to share the most important insights of her past 20 years that have made her more self-confident:
If you really want to make a difference in your life and become confident, Christina has a great recommendation for you: "Let vision work become your daily ritual." Because every day Coach meditates, go within. Into stillness. "Even just investing five minutes in your development can do so much," she knows too well from her own experience. "Ask yourself what you want - and live it. Then gratitude and joy will automatically move into your life."
If you had a stupid childhood, that's (unfortunately) no excuse at all - says Christina. On the contrary: "It brings you an incredible amount of potential and strength. I have also managed to let my fear of loss become smaller and smaller. Now it's time to create the life you really enjoy. That's what you're here for!" And that's how you set Vision Work um:
Suddenly you are no longer the ship that lies quietly in the harbor. But you have aligned your compass, it goes off and the water carries you safely. Dare to use your Leave comfort zone and look forward to lots of great new things.