Recognizing choleric people and learning to deal with them

They explode seemingly without warning, become loud, aggressive or hurtful - and often leave you stunned. Dealing with choleric people is challenging, especially if you are emotionally involved. In this article, we'll show you how, How to recognize a choleric person and learn how to deal with them. But also what is behind his behavior and how you can protect yourselfwithout losing yourself.

What exactly is a choleric person?

A choleric person is someone who is prone to explosive, often uncontrolled anger. Their irritability threshold is low and their reactions are emotionally exaggerated. According to studies, this behavior is often linked to Lack of impulse control and old patterns together.

Incidentally, the choleric temperament is one of the four classic temperaments of ancient personality theory - it stands for hot-headedness, dominance and energy, but also for susceptibility to anger and aggression.

Recognizing choleric people: 6 typical behavioural patterns

A choleric person is not always loud - but usually unpredictable. It is important to recognize subtle and clear signals so that you can set yourself apart at an early stage.

This Signs indicate that you are dealing with a choleric person:

1. Sudden outbursts of anger: Small events turn into a storm
2. Personal attacks: criticism is formulated loudly and hurtfully
3. Control compulsion: Everything is expected to go according to plan
4. No self-reflection: The blame always lies with others
5. Aggressive body language: Threatening tone, fixed gaze, tense posture
6. Emotional manipulation: Anger is often followed by blame or silence

What is behind choleric behavior?

A choleric person often appears strong on the outside - but is seething on the inside Uncertainty. Behind the anger is often a feeling of Excessive demands, vulnerability or Fear from loss of control.

"Outbursts of anger usually arise from an old, unconscious need. Those who have learned to understand their emotions are no longer controlled by them."
- Christina Hommelsheim, Greator Life Coach

How to deal confidently with choleric people

Communicating with a choleric person is challenging - but not impossible. The important thing is that you Keep calm, sets clear boundaries and don't get carried away.

These strategies will help you in everyday life:

• Breathe first - react later: Your nervous system is your protective shield
• Speak clearly and calmly: Avoid irony or counter-accusations
• Set emotional boundaries: You can say: "Not with me like that."
• Leave the situation if necessary: Safety before escalation
• Then reflect in peace: What was your part? Where can you protect yourself?

What you should not do - typical mistakes in handling

Many people try to please choleric people - for fear of the next outburst. But this often leads to Self-denial and inner exhaustion.

Avoid these behavior patterns:

• Apologize even though you did nothing wrong
• Silence for fear of the reaction
• Question yourself when you are attacked
• Wanting to "explain" the anger - at that moment it doesn't help

Instead: observe, protect yourself, speak calmly and clearly later - when the wave is over.

Recognize conflicts - and resolve them peacefully

It is often unresolved conflicts that serve as triggers for choleric people. That is why it is crucial to work on your Communication Skills to work.

A valuable impetus for this is our free Masterclass "Resolving conflicts peacefully" with neurobiologist Gerald Hüther. Here you will learn how to better understand emotional dynamics - and how to get out of the escalation spiral: Register now for a free masterclass

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What you can do for yourself - even if the other person doesn't change

Not every choleric person will change - but you can change the way you deal with the situation. And thus noticeably improve your quality of life.

Strengthen your inner attitude by:

• Self-reflection and coaching
• Clarity about your Needs
• Differentiation through language and action
• Understanding without giving up on yourself

Especially if you are regularly confronted with choleric behavior - for example at work or in the family - it is worth reflecting on your communication behavior professionally.

Conclusion: You can protect yourself - without feeling guilty

Choleric people are often loud, demanding and hurtful - but that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. You can communicate clearly, set boundaries and focus on your own emotional safety.

At Greator we believe: Conflicts are not disasters - they are opportunities for real development. And they start with yourself.