"There are stories that life writes that are better than anything you can make up." So claims keynote speaker Sabine Asgodom. For her, failing more beautifully means being able to accept that things don't always go well. She says, "You know the question of whether the glass is half full or half empty. In my life, I've found: Sometimes nothing is the case at all. Because that's when the glass has fallen over. Sometimes there are situations like that. And it just sucks when the glass falls over." According to the expert, failing more beautifully therefore means not only being able to accept something, but perhaps even risking one's own failure. Check out her highly entertaining talk to find out more!
Sabine Asgodom says: "I started my own business as a trainer and speaker 19 years ago. And it was exactly 19 years ago that I first went on really big stages. Back then, I tucked my stomach in when I spoke to look slimmer. But you know what happens when you pull your stomach in when you speak? You breathe differently. And then you don't have enough air and your voice gets higher and higher. Man audience member thought, "Why is that fat girl on stage so hysterical? But I wasn't hysterical at all - I just had no air."
Sabine Asgodoms Stories about failure
You're probably already realizing how much fun failure can be - at least when it affects someone else. And that's why, according to the expert, life isn't just about daring to fail. It is just as important that we also stand by other people who fail. Sabine Asgodom: "I would like to tell you a few stories about failure - two examples, three insights." Are you curious? Well, then let's get started!
Sabine Asgodom: "Asking instead of telling can help us fail less!"
The first story is about gut feelings. Sabine Asgodom: "Maybe you know this feeling, when you are absolutely sure that something is going well - dead certain. I once had a colleague whom I saw every day in the corridor. At one point she was wearing an indian dress. I saw her and thought she was pregnant, walked up to her beaming and said, 'Congratulations, when is it due?' My colleague blanched. I got a high red head and apologized. So gut feelings aren't always right. We became the very best of friends afterwards because we could laugh together and talk about it."
This taught Sabine Asgodom an essential principle that she now uses every day as a coach. Her principle is: Ask instead of tell. In a later Coaching the expert met a participant who wanted to become a Formula 1 racing driver coach. At first, she was skeptical. Then she inquired how he came up with the idea and asked. In her presentation, she reveals, "He told me his story and actually had gasoline in his blood. So asking instead of telling can really help us fail less."
The second story is about Sabine Asgodom's very first television appearance. She describes it as follows: "It was 24 years ago. At the time, I had written my first book, which was about balancing professional and private life. In a talk show in Hamburg I was supposed to present my book. I could see myself becoming rich, famous and happy. And what was the first thing I did? I bought myself a TV dress - a dream of a dress made of reed-green silk. I felt elfin in that dress. It was expensive as hell, but I knew it would come back a million times over. You have to invest in your success sometimes. What I hadn't considered was that silk is a very delicate fabric."
And so it happened that Sabine Asgodom got off the plane in Hamburg and her dress started to wrinkle conspicuously. She recounts: "The length effect was lifted and my Self-confidence dropped to zero. In the TV studio, I was sweating like an animal. And what does reed-green silk do when it gets wet? It turns black. I had wide sweat stripes under my arms. I was done with the world. The recording supervisor called me into the studio. It was a live broadcast." So the mess took its course. But Sabine Asgodom has learned a lot from her terribly unpleasant appearance on the talk show. She would like to share these three insights with you:
1. risk being yourself
Don't try to be someone else or play a role. Sabine Asgodom: "I've known since: when you go on stage, never wear what you haven't worn for a long time." Joking aside: please don't think you're better when you're pretending. Sabine Asgodom: "We humans have to accept much more often that some things are not reserved for us. And sometimes that's a good thing."
2. risk being imperfect
The expert says: "I observe that people think they have to be able to do something perfectly before they do it. And therefore they do nothing at all, because it is not good enough for them yet. But how much love and joy could there be in this world if we could stand being imperfect? Because there will always be someone richer or prettier or slimmer than us."
3. risk being happy
Last but not least, Sabine Asgodom gives you one last important piece of advice: "Risk being happy in your life. I wish you that!" We can only agree and hope you enjoyed Sabine Asgodom's lecture as much as we did.
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