Life is not about reaching a big goal - but about mastering many small stages. Laura Malina Seiler is Mindful Empowerment Coach and expert for mental strength and mindfulness. She knows: "Our life is the sum of the decisions we make every day. We are what we do repeatedly." So every now and then it's time for something new. But change is not easy for most of us. Because changes and innovations require that we do something fundamentally different than before. Laura Malina Seiler: "Many people always do the same thing, but hope for different results. That can't work." It tells you how to bring positive changes into your life.
But why do we find change so difficult? Why are Habits so powerful that we can barely escape them? One of the reasons is that our habits are predictable and comfortable. Changes, on the other hand, are physically and mentally exhausting. Our environment does not always play along either, which makes the process even more difficult. The good news is that you can learn to welcome change. That's why we would like to present you with exciting facts about change today, which can become the absolute Game Changer for you. Are you ready to take control of your life and make room for positive changes? Well, then let's go!
For positive change: Dissolve your inner conflicts
Our habits form our Comfort zone - and we're very reluctant to leave them. That's why we can only rarely take a really big step. But this is not bad at all, because usually it is the many small steps that lead us to the life we want to live. There is a biochemical reason why even small steps are sometimes very difficult for us. Laura Malina Seiler explains: "If you have conditioned yourself over a long period of time to do something specific, your body releases messenger substances and happiness hormones as soon as you do this thing. The catch? Through the positive messengers your body produces a pleasant hormone cocktail - and does everything it can to get it again and again.
Laura Malina Seiler: "Your body wants to have the information that you are doing the thing again so that it can get its hormone cocktail. If you don't do that, the feeling comes on 'This doesn't feel right somehow'. That's how your body makes you hold on to habits." So if you want to change something, your body and mind are in disharmony for a short time. Laura Malina Seiler: "At that moment your mind wants something different from your body. Your body wants the same hormones that it otherwise gets. But your mind wants to change something because it's more rational." In that moment of disharmony we feel insecure and bad. And that's why most people don't change anything in that moment.
But of course that is not the solution. So what can you do to trick your body and bring positive changes in your life? Laura Malina Seiler knows: "What you want to achieve must be emotionally more positively charged than what your body has received so far. So you have to create a feeling that is stronger than your body's addiction to its hormone cocktail."
Visualize big goals, but still think in many small steps. Make changes as easy as possible. Your body has got used to something and wants it back. But this has nothing to do with whether this thing is right or wrong. Often it is sugar, cigarettes, alcohol or other luxury and consumer goods. Your body does everything it can to reach its goal - even though sugar and co. are of course not good for it.
So your goal is: Be mentally stronger than the biochemical cravings of your body! Discipline is like a muscle that you can train. Laura Malina Seiler: "How can you end this inner conflict? By gradually restoring the harmony between body and mind. Because at some point your body no longer asks for the old information, but for the new one. You can reprogram yourself so that your body soon starts working for you again and not against you."
So success comes when you get into action. Laura Malina Seiler: "We are what we do every day repeatedly. If you want to achieve your vision at some point, then you have to start on a small scale today. You are stronger than your need to receive the happiness hormones right now. Be stronger than the short-term stimuli that trigger you everywhere. Long-term thinking is more important than a short-term release of Dopamine. Don't give up what you want to accomplish in your life long term for something you want right now."