We all have an inner child within us that tries to please everyone. This is what the successful coach and speaker Robert Betz. For over 20 years the expert has been working in psychology. His main focus is on self-love, meditation and spirituality. He says: "The child in you has often been in the rigidity of powerlessness. It has felt lonely - that is the loneliness wound. You don't want to be alone." What else is behind it, and how to get to know your inner child anew, you'll learn in this magazine article.
Your inner child lives within you
Feelings are created in childhood and afterwards are nourished by the same thoughts again and again. Do thoughts like "I'm not good enough, not athletic enough, not slim enough, not disciplined enough" sound familiar? Then you are caught in the trap of self-criticism. Robert Betz: "As a child you learned that you are not enough. And this is still alive and well in the unconscious of most of us today. And you radiate this thought as well."
The little child within you - the little boy or girl - is the most important figure in your life. The graduate psychologist knows: "She does not always make life easy for us. Why? This child lives in you exactly as you experienced it then and left it behind when you grew up." Maybe you've neglected and forgotten. Robert Betz: "In these months and years we become aware of our inner child again, because it calls us and wants to be noticed."
Your inner child is waiting for love
In other words: Every moment of your life is stored in you - also and above all your childhood. During this time you had to adapt and were dependent. You had to pull yourself together and do or think what others thought was right. You were not completely self-determined. And you wanted to please. Robert Betz: "This child is in you today and is waiting for you to perceive and love it and to give it what it wished for at that time from its father or mother - namely to be accepted as it is. With all his feelings, his wildness, his restlessness, his thoughts, his play instinct and his desire for a free existence."
I'm sure you're experiencing some unpleasant feelings today. Surely there are situations in which other people annoy you and make you angry or sad. Be it in relationships with partners or at your workplace. The expert says: "This feeling is not felt by the adult woman or man, but by the little girl or boy inside you. And then that child, in your perception, is making life difficult for you."
Free your inner child
When you are sad or angry, it is important to go inside, close your eyes and see how the child inside you is sad, angry or powerless. Robert Betz: "These feelings want to be accepted in the child within you. Your heart wants to open itself for exactly this child. And this is the solution for the liberation from old patterns and the way out of old limitations. The door to your freedom is called: Free the inner child in you!"
Accept it, talk to him and tell him that it is lovable and wonderful. The successful life teacher and seminar leader is convinced: "Through your speech, your love and acceptance your inner child in you will change. It will enter the field of your love. And when you go through life as an adult man or adult woman with an inner boy or inner girl who feels loved, then you are a different person.
Open your heart to your inner child
The most important meditations that Robert Betz offers in his seminars are therefore based on healing and liberating the inner child. He says: "I invite everyone to face this little child in one, to open their heart, to get to know the state of mind and feelings of this child, to love and accept it, and to transform it in this way. Transform your inner child into a happy child! This is an important condition to make your life more peaceful, joyful and easier.
Robert Betz is sure: "Go this way and you will not regret it. You will feel very rewarded for rewarding yourself with this work."