Sometimes there are just days that go badly. Your mood is in the basement, somehow you just can't get anything done. And even when you're relaxing on the couch in the evening, the corners of your mouth still pull down. You feel unhappy. We all feel that way from time to time. The important thing is that we manage to pull ourselves back out of this slump. Otherwise, a bad day can quickly turn into a bad week or even a bad month.
This has long been the case with you and you are simply permanently unhappy? Then it's high time that you take your happiness into your own hands again! Don't worry, we won't leave you out in the cold. We'll help you understand why you're so unhappy in the first place and work with you to finally put an end to it!
These are the most common reasons why people are unhappy
Why exactly you are unhappy, we can not tell you from afar. You can find that out all on your own, because you know yourself and your desires and Needs is the best way. That's why we want to help you in a different way. Namely, by giving you some food for thought.
You just function
Your day is packed with to-dos and even when you get home from work, there are still countless tasks waiting to be done at home. Honestly, where is the time and space for happiness? You sink deeper and deeper into your routine and all the hobbies and rituals that actually make you happy disappear in the background.
Time flies and you hardly notice how the days, weeks and months pass you by. Another year has passed and you wonder where the time has gone. You don't live your life at all, but shimmy through your to-do lists without being able to really enjoy your precious time on earth.
Your job does not fulfill you
Many of us spend the majority of our day at work. Do you? Then your job plays a major role in whether or not you're happy. If you spend large parts of your day doing a job that doesn't fulfill you at all, sooner or later you'll be unhappy.
Of course, work can't be fun every day. There are also days that are particularly stressful or on which you have to work through annoying tasks. Nevertheless, the positives should outweigh the negatives and, above all, you should see a purpose behind your work.
Unhappy because your relationship does not work
You're simply no longer swimming on the same wave, and when you're not discussing things, you keep quiet. Let's be honest: you're not really happy with that. But you are still together, because without the other life is somehow difficult to imagine.
Nevertheless, things cannot go on like this. Any Relationship sometimes goes through a difficult phase. But it is important that both partners admit this and are willing to work on it. Look at where the cause lies for each of you. Only in this way will you be able to banish unhappiness from your lives.
You are lonely
We humans are social beings and need contacts. This does not necessarily have to be a permanent partnership. Friends are important for our well-being.
Even though it's incredibly easy to get in touch these days thanks to social media and the like, on average we'll always be lonely. Instead of meeting in the offline world, contact is increasingly taking place online only. Simply because it's so convenient. And that's exactly why we humans are lonelier than ever before, despite countless contacts.
You lack the challenges
Basically, every day is the same for you. You get up, go to work, come home, take care of the household and the family, and then fall into bed tired. The next morning, everything starts all over again. Where's the excitement in that?
If you're unhappy, you need new challenges. They get you out of your daily rut and give you the opportunity to grow beyond yourself. Without challenges, you can't develop further and remain stuck in place. And standing still makes us all unhappy at some point.
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A nice afternoon with friends, a relaxing evening on the couch with your favorite movie, a delicious meal or just coffee in the morning - there are so many little things that make you happy. But these feelings are often short-term. Once the joy has worn off, you're quickly unhappy again. These sources of quick happiness give you a good feeling for a short time, but not a permanently happy life. What is needed above all is an overriding sense of purpose and the possibility of self-actualization.
You live in the past
Sometimes it can be nice to reminisce. But if you completely lose sight of the present, you miss your life! Again and again, when you realize this, unhappiness catches you.
However, maybe you're not reminiscing about positive memories at all, but you're still angry about things you did in the Past have done. You know yourself that this is not useful. You have to leave these things behind in order to finally stop being unhappy.
5 clear signs that you are unhappy in life
Unhappiness usually creeps into life very slowly. You often hardly notice it and only realize that you are unhappy when the condition has already spread to all areas. But you don't want it to get that far in the first place! Fortunately, there are a few subliminal signs that warn you early on when the Dissatisfaction in your everyday life:
You can hardly get out of bed. It's not necessarily because you're tired, but because you just can't motivate yourself to face everyday life.
Time and again you have stomachaches or headaches. Sooner or later, emotional stress also affects the body. Abdominal pain and headaches are typical stress symptoms that can also occur when you are unhappy - after all, this also means stress for your body.
You can't concentrate. Somehow everything distracts you and at the end of the day you are totally stressed out because you hardly accomplished anything and had no motivating sense of achievement.
You like to escape into the world of series or social media. Everything seems perfect here and you can forget the worries of everyday life. But when you turn off the TV or put away your cell phone, you suddenly feel empty.
Often you neglect yourself. You no longer feel like meeting your friends, pursuing your hobbies or simply doing something good for yourself.
6 tips for a happier life
How great would it be if there were a golden rule that made life happy from one moment to the next? Unfortunately, it's not quite that easy. That would really be too good to be true, wouldn't it? But that doesn't mean that we simply have to give in to unhappiness. With a few tips, you too can put your life back on course for happiness!
1. integrate moments of happiness into your everyday life
What sounds so easy, only very few of us actually do. If you just want to fall into bed after a long day, no one can blame you. But you're not contributing to your personal happiness.
If you lie awake for half an eternity every night anyway, because you just can't fall asleep due to inner restlessness and dissatisfaction, then take a few minutes for a ritual that makes you happy. Read a few pages in your favorite book, treat yourself to another delicious hot tea or write happiness diary. Anything that makes you fall asleep happy and relaxed is allowed!
2. practice gratitude
Every day at least one little thing happens that makes you happy. Even though you may not notice it, it's there! It can be a nice message from a friend, a particularly delicious coffee in the morning or a smile from a stranger on the street. Why don't you just focus on that and be grateful for the small moments in lifethat will sweeten your day.
3. learn to enjoy things
If you find yourself in a moment of happiness, be aware of it. Far too often we let life simply rush past us and can hardly enjoy the beautiful things. Feel the moment and soak it up. You will be able to live off the happiness that flows through your body for a long time to come.
4. no longer be unhappy: move
Don't worry, you don't have to become a competitive athlete. More important than how often you exercise is whether you're passionate about it. If you don't like jogging, don't force yourself. If you don't like going to the gym, don't do it.
You like to play a round of volleyball? Then so be it! Find a sport that you enjoy and do it to the extent that you enjoy it. This can be every day, once a week or simply whenever you have time and feel like it. The main thing is that you move, because that releases happiness hormones in the body.
5. go for a walk
Walks through nature almost have something meditative about them. In Japan, they are even prescribed by doctors, and of course not without reason. They help you do that, find inner peace and enjoy the little things in life again. Just 30 minutes a day in the fresh air is enough to push negative thoughts into the background and simply be happier.
6. get enough sleep
People who are unhappy often sleep a lot. But that doesn't necessarily mean that this sleep is of high quality. If you just toss and turn all night, your body can't regenerate and your mind can't get itself in order either. So that your Sleep more restful you should put your cell phone away at least 30 minutes before you go to bed and also turn off the TV. All that light prevents your body from producing melatonin and letting you fall fast asleep.
Being unhappy: A question of mindset
Your thoughts influence your life more than you might think. "You are what you think" - honestly reflect on what challenge or circumstance you have brought into your life through your thoughts and attitude. This is the first step toward healing and rethinking. The right mindset is the basic framework for your personal happiness! In our mini-course "How to become happier" we show you how you can work on exactly that and finally become positive and happy again. full of joy through your life to go!
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