Not everything works out as hoped. Then you feel betrayed, disappointed and depressed. How could you have been so wrong? Was the outcome not to be expected? Sometimes even a canceled meeting throws you off track. In your job, too, there are always disappointments - the boss is not happy with your work. happyyou don't get a bonus...
Some people seem to have less trouble putting away such setbacks. What about you? Disappointments are hard to avoid, but perhaps you can learn to overcome them more easily. Always remember: disappointment exposes deception. In fact, there's a lot you can do to help yourself cope with bad experiences.
The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment - this basic idea leads many people to scale back their hopes. You are not in control of things. Other people and the passage of time influence what happens. In a friendship or love relationship, affection is not always balanced - one likes the other more than the other - and that leads to unfulfilled desires. If you want a certain gift and get something completely different instead, you are also disappointed.
The disappointment comes from the fact that what happens does not meet your expectations. For that you recognize the reality. Disappointment involves uncovering the deeper layers. On the one hand there are your desires and needs, on the other hand there is reality. The discrepancy between the two makes up the degree of disappointment. With this definition it shows that disappointment is different from the original Deception free.
Where does disappointment come from, what triggers this feeling of dissatisfaction? Basically, there are three main causes which trigger three different types of disappointment: False promises, unrealistic hopes, and self-deception.
1. false promises arise from the deliberate deception of others. Sometimes the supposed friends or colleagues also misjudge a situation: so it does not have to be malicious deception. Such a disappointment is unpredictable; moreover, you have no control over the situation. Especially with supposedly good friends you are deeply disappointed and feel betrayed.
2. unrealistic expectations are your own responsibility, even if that sounds harsh. This can be a misjudgement or related to too high expectations of others. Some people blame others, even though their own attitude caused the disappointment.
3. Die Selbsttäuschung entsteht oft durch Ungeduld und ein falsches Selbstbild. Perfektionismus ist ein gutes Beispiel.
If it is your own attitude that leads to disappointment, you can do something about it. Expectations about the future can be adjusted to reality so as not to succumb to illusions. By doing so, you reduce the risk of disappointment.
Have fewer expectations to avoid disappointment - that sounds logical. But you can't control your hopes all the time. Besides, dreams and expectations are not a bad thing. After all, they make people do extraordinary things. It's better to prepare yourself for possible disappointments: Then you'll be relieved when things don't turn out so bad.
An example: You hope for the new job and eagerly prepare for the interview. You are already imagining how the first day at work will go. At the same time, you are afraid that you will be rejected. However, you can't put your expectations aside. In this situation, you are prepared to be disappointed, but you still try your best. In other situations, too, it is worth taking a chance. With courage and foresight, you move forward without being deterred by small obstacles. If you don't even try, fear of disappointment will paralyze you. But maybe you will succeed.
If it doesn't work out with the job or with other projects, the disappointment is there. You see the truth for what it is. Is that such a bad thing? If you made a mistake yourself, you know what to do differently next time. If someone else is responsible, there's nothing you can do about it. Just look ahead and move on, allowing your own disappointed feelings without letting them beat you down - that's how you take heart.
You cannot avoid disappointment. When you realize that, you automatically feel stronger: you allow the possibility to be disappointed. You know that you can stand this feeling. This Resilience protects you from being hurt by other people.
Everyday psychology deals not only with your own disappointments, but also with the disappointments you inflict on others. If you make a mistake and disappoint someone, it is important to clarify the problem. Apologize, talk to the people involved. Not all people show their disappointment, so in some cases you will need a lot of empathy and sensitivity.
Denial is not a good idea. If you are responsible, you should admit it. So stand by your actions and stay honest. This builds your own character and makes the disappointed feel better. You can explain the reasons for your actions and limit the damage as much as possible or maybe even make amends. Then the disappointed people also believe that improvement is in sight. Apologies can be difficult, especially with family and friends. But in doing so, you show great appreciation for interpersonal relationships. Relationship.
You are disappointed and hurt, but there are good ways to get out of this low. You can't avoid disillusionment, but you can deal with it constructively. A few proven methods will help you to do this.
There are many wise people who have given interesting sayings about disappointments. In the selected quotes you will recognize life wisdom that will help you to process. Self-awareness can be found as well as the hope for a positive development.
Disappointment is often the logical result of self-deception, but it can also be caused by common problems in life. With the Greator Visions Challenge you strengthen your resilience and cope better with disappointments. We take you by the hand so that you can finally find out what can take up more space in your life and what you should now let go of!
There are so many more good things than bad experiences - and even the negative contains positive power. This is shown by the fact that you can learn from mistakes. The further development of your personality makes you strong for later disappointments and helps you through life, privately and professionally. Whether you want to achieve special goals or build new relationships, you no longer have to shy away from disappointments.
