Time for me: how to create islands of peace in your everyday life

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Time for me: how to create islands of peace in your everyday life

"I just don't have time for myself." Does this statement sound familiar? You're not alone. Between work and family life, many people feel that their own needs are being neglected. In this case, it can help to reorganize your priorities and learn smart time management.

"Time for me" - why it is essential for your physical and mental well-being

A busy working week, sports courses and social evenings after work, weekends are already planned several weeks in advance ... If you have children, their appointments and commitments are of course not to be neglected either. There's hardly any time left for yourself. But why is so-called "me time" so important anyway?

This can be explained quite simply: A full schedule means stress. We humans can cope well with stressful situations for a while. However, if there are no breaks to recover, chronic stress develops. The constant release of stress hormones promotes various physical or psychological symptoms that affect your well-being and health. This is due to Studies occupied.

"My boyfriend doesn't have time for me, but he has time for others": dealing with neglect

Of course, there is also the other side of the coin. Perhaps you are able to create time for yourself, but your partner is not. This can easily give the impression that everything else is more important to him than your relationship. But this doesn't necessarily have to be the case.

First of all, you should talk to your partner and tell them that you find the situation stressful. Perhaps he wasn't even aware of it! Some people are so caught up in their whirlwind of appointments and commitments that they don't even notice when someone close to them feels neglected.

Then it depends on whether your partner shows understanding. If this is the case, you can look together at how you can reorganize your time together. Bad planning is often the cause of important people falling by the wayside. We have put together specific and proven tips for more me time for you later on.

"Who is not there for me in bad times": Recognizing true friendships

As the saying goes: people only show their true colors in difficult situations. You may have already had to go through this painful experience. You can recognize a true friendship by the fact that the person in question is loyal to you even when you get into trouble. This is especially true if the latter is your own fault.

People who are not true friends are quick to turn away from you in life crises and condemn you for your wrong decisions. Conversely, this does not mean that a true friend has to approve of all your decisions. They will give you their honest opinion without attacking your human dignity.

And what does all this have to do with the topic of "time for me"? Well, you shouldn't waste your time with false friends! If you sense that a person is being dishonest with you, trying to oppress you or draining your energy, it would make sense to reconsider this connection.

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"Why doesn't he have time for me?": Communication and boundaries in relationships

If your partner doesn't seem to have time for you, this can be very hurtful. To solve this problem, communication is the most important tool, as already briefly explained. Only if your partner knows how you feel can they change their behavior.

In the worst case scenario, however, you may not be at the top of your partner's list of priorities. You will notice this at the latest when there are no positive changes despite open discussion or he is even intransigent.

If this is the case, you need to protect your own boundaries! Think about whether you really want to share your future with someone for whom you are not that important. Being constantly put off and put off will affect your self-esteem in the long run. You shouldn't let it get that far.

5 tips for creating more "me time" in everyday life

"I wish I had more time for myself in everyday life!" If you recognize yourself in this wish, the following five tips can help you:

1. get an overview

Have you completed one task and two new ones have arisen as a result? Are all your obligations getting on top of you? This could be because you don't have an overview of your tasks. Start by writing down everything you have to do.

2. set priorities

Once you have an overview of your obligations, sort them by importance. You will see: If you work through your tasks according to priority - and therefore with structure - you will finish them faster. This creates time windows that you can use to relax.

3. perceive and communicate your own needs

Do you find it difficult to say no sometimes? If you fill your daily schedule with obligations for other people, it's no wonder that you no longer have time for yourself. Think about which favors you really want to fulfill and when it's time to put your own needs first.

4. even small breaks count

Even in hectic times, you can manage to find little oases of strength in your everyday life. The secret is to use them properly. Instead of playing with your cell phone in short windows of free time, you could meditate briefly or enjoy your coffee to the full. You'll see that you'll feel much more relaxed!

5. digital detox

Do you know where the biggest time wasters lurk? It's usually your cell phone or social media platforms. Have you ever noticed how much time you spend in front of a screen every day? By limiting these times, you can create new valuable oases of time in your everyday life.

The role of coaching in the search for balance and mindfulness

"I want to take time for myself." As good and simple as this resolution sounds, it is not always easy to put into practice. Sometimes it takes an external impulse to reorganize your priorities and learn how to manage your time effectively. Professional coaching can provide valuable support here.

Together with your coach, you will identify negative beliefs and counterproductive habits that are robbing you of your time. You will then work together to develop solutions that will help you gain more time for yourself in the long term. The latter in turn increases your zest for life and boosts your performance potential.

Why can't I make more time for myself?

"I would love to have more time for myself, but I just can't manage it." Could this sentence be yours? Then you should ask yourself why exactly. There are various reasons why you might be missing out on personal retreat time. However, an unfavorable or lacking distribution of priorities and incorrect time management often play a decisive role.

In addition, the following aspects can take up your time:

  • You can't manage to say no and are constantly doing things for other people.
  • You waste a lot of your time, which you could be using for relaxation, on your cell phone.
  • You often live haphazardly into the day and are surprised by your tasks.
  • You keep wasting your energy in the wrong place, so that you are pressed for time on important matters.

Mindfulness practices for more "me time"

"Time for me" means much more than simply being free from obligations. Rather, it's about enjoying your time with yourself and using it to relax. Mindfulness is the key to this.

There are various mindfulness practices whose effectiveness scientifically proven is. How about yoga, for example, Meditation or progressive muscle relaxation according to Jacobsen? Breathing techniques and Relaxation exercises help you to relax in stressful situations.

The search for balance: how "time for me" increases well-being

Anyone who only ever works without resting and ignores their own needs is verifiable more susceptible to psychosomatic complaints and burn-out.

If, on the other hand, you regularly take time for yourself, you can recharge your energy reserves, making you more balanced and efficient. It is therefore important to find a balance between time out and obligations. Your well-being is an important indicator here. If you feel overwhelmed and can no longer relax, then you should change something.

Recognize the value of your own time

Always remember that your time is precious. Past opportunities and happy moments never come back. You should therefore consciously take time for yourself to replenish your energy reserves and ground yourself. You will be rewarded with an improved sense of well-being and increased performance.

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Reviewed by Dr. med. Stefan Frädrich

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