Letting go of your fear - this is how you make friends with it

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Letting go of your fear - this is how you make friends with it

What is your fear that has been with you for a long time? How do you deal with it? How do you deal with it? Does it make you small and limit you? Only if you allow yourself to deal with your Fear you can really let them go and transform them. We would like to help you valuable tips how you can learn to stop being afraid of fear. Yes - and how you can even embrace it!

What causes fear?

What causes anxiety - the saying "making a mountain out of a molehill" is apt: when one person gets stuck in an elevator, they become extremely nervous and start looking for strategies to solve the problem. The other person panics and can no longer think clearly. Why? Because each of us has accumulated different associations with fear in our lives.

There may have been a single situation in early childhood in which you felt for the first time what is now catching up with you in the stuck elevator: powerlessness, loss of control, being alone... And this feeling "overcomes" you again and again in special, challenging situations in your life. In other words, the situation from back then is literally still in your bones. That's why fear has such an effect on us. Because your system has stored the experience and the associated feeling deep inside you. Therefore - look forward all the more to suggestions on how you can let go of your fears more and more.

Feel free to reflect on yourself: When you're afraid of something, how do you act? Do you hide, flee or go into battle?

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Let go: Get to know your fears

For example, if you're afraid to show up and do your thing because you've failed before or others might laugh at you, there are two options: Avoid the fear by inventing all sorts of reasons and culprits that prevent you from doing your thing. Or you can let go of your fear, even get to know it. And then go your way.

What situations put you in fear? Is it just the idea that something could happen? Like getting sick with Corona. Or losing your job or partner? What kind of feeling can you perceive in your body now?

How do I get to know my fears?

The moment you become aware of your fear, it already loses some of its power. If you feel your fear more and more intensely without resistance, the blocked fear can be released and you no longer have to avoid it in this life. Dare to feel more into the pain behind it.

At this point, ask yourself the question: How do I already know the pain? When did I experience it for the first time? Perhaps a situation or an image from your childhood comes to mind. Sense. You might even find Beliefsthat you have manifested for yourself in this situation. Meditations help, by the way, to let such inner images arise. Look forward to the following phenomenon: The moment you give up resistance and let go, everything in you becomes soft!

Let go of fears? Take them by the hand

"The moment you feel your fear, let it be there and give it space, get to know it and embrace it, the fear shrinks," says coach Christina Hommelsheim from experience. Together with her husband, she published the book "Heart over head - the simple formula for a happy life"in which the couple also address the topic of "fears". "It's not gone completely. But it's getting smaller. And now YOU can take her by the hand and take small, courageous steps with her," Christina encourages!

How to make friends with your fears

So how do you now conclude Friendship with your fear? The best way to get to know it is to look at it. Most of the time, fear - seen as a survival instinct - only wants your best: It wants that nothing happens to you. Or that an old, negative experience doesn't happen to you again. So: Take your fear by the hand. Show it how beautiful and colorful life can be. Because it is allowed to be there. But it should not inhibit you further. 

Tips to let go of your fears

5 tips to let go of your fears

Maybe the following five tips will help you to become more and more comfortable with your fear and to let it go.

  1. Feel your wounds

Allow yourself to feel your anger, and all your other feelings as well. They are an expression of your life instinct, they seek the good and the just. Your anger pulls you out of your stupor. If you like, shout it out and hit a pillow. Give yourself consciously to your sadness for once, so that it can finally go.

  1. Be your best friend

Whoever hurt you then can't hurt you now. You're a strong, mature person now. Embrace your younger self. Build yourself up like a loving mom or good friends would. Give yourself some good advice. How would you be living if none of this had happened?

  1. Use your power for yourself

When you are in resistance, you are always fighting with yourself and losing your energy. Rather use your power for yourself. Go out and live your life! Other people have no more power over you! You are free!

  1. Gains clarity again

As long as we focus on our wounds, we circle around what went wrong. When you look forward again, look closely: What opportunities are available to you now? What do you still want to experience? New results will only come if you move on instead of getting stuck in the pain.

  1. Find new Trust

All our feelings and strengths come from our vulnerability. Also our creativity and the will to engage in new things. Have courage to be vulnerable! Believe in your Self-healing powers. No matter what comes: You trust your power!

Forgiveness reconnects you with love

Forgiveness is the key to reconnecting with your inner child, healing old wounds and living love. "Forgiveness was and is also a big issue in my own life and has given me back so much joy and creative power," says Laura Malina Seiler quite openly. The author of "May you be happy" even says: "My most valuable insight is that forgiveness is the only way to reconnect with love."

In relation to our topic "Letting go of fears", this means: Perhaps there were key people in the situation at the time who caused you fear or triggered it in you. There is a nice exercise that we would like to share with you:


Close your eyes.

Make yourself comfortable on a chair. Feel your feet under the floor. Think of the person who was involved in the situation. Can you see her in your mind's eye? Then connect with them: let all your compassion flow to them and say to the person, "I forgive you. I forgive you and I ask that you forgive me too. For I am a part of you and you are a part of me."

Now imagine how the other person will say those two sentences to you as well.

Thank the person who is standing in front of you. Maybe you can hug the person now.

The moment you forgive, you are free and give your power back to yourself. And your fear becomes smaller and smaller and smaller...

Letting go of fears: What happens when you succeed?

Letting go of fears: What happens when you succeed?

Letting go of your fears does not guarantee that you will no longer feel fear. But you will increasingly notice over time that she no longer has control over you. You will meet her differently. You may even notice early on - when a special situation arises again - that it is your fear that you have known for a long time. At that moment, you may ask yourself if you want to let her take control again. Or whether you accept it, let it be there. By giving your fear a space to show itself, at least for a moment, it will become smaller each time. This realization alone will bring you so much healing. Above all more and more inner peacewhen a scary situation is about to happen again.

Letting go of fears with the help of Greator Life Coach training

Letting go of fears - that's what training to become a Greator Life Coach a very important topic. Would you like to finally free yourself from your inner limitations? In our training for Greator Coach you will learn exactly that! Look forward to a nine-month journey to yourself. To more Clarity. To more inner peace. You can look forward to many insights that will not only help you move forward. Above all, they will help you to finally understand what makes you tick, what makes others tick and why you are so quick to go off the deep end with some people or in certain situations. Why you feel fear in certain situations ... You will see how quickly things fall into place in your life that may have been unclear until now. Face your fears. Meet your Beliefs. And open yourself for new thoughts. Bring (again) the radiance into your life! 



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Reviewed by Dr. med. Stefan Frädrich

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