What is your oldest fear? How do you feel about it? And how do you attempt to deal with it? Does it make you feel small and restrict you? Only when you allow yourself to befriend your fear can you really let go of it and transform it. We want to give you valuable tips on overcoming fear - how you can learn to stop being afraid and full of anxiety. Yes - and how you even embrace it!!
What causes fear?
Think of the saying "Make a mountain out of a molehill": If you get stuck in the elevator, one person becomes slightly nervous and is already looking for strategies for a solution. The other person panics completely and can no longer think clearly. Why? Because each of us has had different connections with fear in our lives.
There may have been one single situation in early childhood in which you felt the feeling for the first time, which is now catching up with you in the stuck elevator: Powerlessness; Loss of control; Being alone. And this feeling repeatedly "overcomes" you in unique, challenging situations in your life. In other words, the situation from the past is still with you in the truest sense of the word. This is why fear has such an effect on us. Your system stored the experience and the associated feeling deep inside you. You need to look to the future for solutions and learn how overcoming fear really is a possibility.
Feel free to reflect for yourself: If you are afraid of something, how do you act? Do you hide yourself away, do you flee, or do you go into battle?
Letting go of your fears: get to know them
f you are afraid to show yourself up and do your thing because you have failed or others might laugh at you, there are two options. You can avoid the fear by inventing all possible reasons and culprits that prevent you from doing your thing. Or you can overcome your fear, even get to know it. Basically, feel the fear and do it anyway.
What situations do you fear? Is it just the idea that something could happen? Contracting Corona, for example, or losing your job or partner? What kind of feeling can you perceive in your body now?
How do I get to know my fears?
The moment you perceive your fear, it loses some of its power. If you feel your fear more and more intensely without resistance, you can release the blocked fear, and you no longer have to avoid it in this life. Knowing the fear is the key to robbing it of its power and ability to cause pain.
At this point, it's a good idea to ask yourself the question: How can I identify the fear? When did I see it for the first time? Perhaps a childhood situation or image comes straight to mind. You may even find beliefsthat you have manifested for yourself in this situation. Meditations also help to create such inner images. Look forward to the following phenomenon: the moment you give up the resistance and let go, everything in you melts!
Release your fear. Take it by the hand
"The moment you feel your fear, let it be there and give it space, get to know and embrace it, the fear shrinks," says coach Christina Grahn-Hommelsheim from experience. Together with her husband, she published the book "Heart over head - The simple formula for a happy life", in which the couple also devoted themselves to the topic of "fears". "It doesn't go away immediately. But it is getting smaller. And now YOU can take it by the hand to take small, brave steps with it," encourages Christina!
This is how you make friends with your fears
So how do you make friends with your fear now? The best way to get to know them is to look. Most of the time, fear - viewed as a survival instinct - actually wants the best for you or is tasked with ensuring that an old, negative experience won't happen to you again. So take your fear by the hand. Show it how beautiful and colourful life can be. Give it permission to be there but not to hinder you any further.
5 tips to overcome your fears
Perhaps the following five tips will help you at this point to make friends with your fear more and more and to let go of it.
- Feel your wounds
Allow yourself to get in touch with your emotions; your anger and all of your other feelings. They are an expression of your instinct for life; they seek what is good and just. Your anger pulls you out of your comfort zone. If you like, shout them out and slap a pillow. Consciously give in to your grief so that it can finally go.
- Be your best friend
Whoever hurt you then can no longer do it. You are now a strong, mature person. Take your younger self in your arms. Build yourself up like a loving mother or good friends would. Give yourself some good advice. How would you live if none of this had happened?
- Use your strength for yourself
When you are in resistance, you are always fighting with yourself, and you lose your energy. Rather use your strength for yourself. Go out and live your life! Other people no longer have any power over you! You are free!
- Regain clarity
As long as we focus on our wounds, we focus on what went wrong. When you look ahead again, take a close look: What are your options now? What else do you want to experience? You will only get new results if you move on instead of getting stuck in pain.
- Find new trust
All of our feelings and strengths come from our vulnerability—along with our creativity and the motivation to get involved in new things. Have the courage to be vulnerable! Believe in your self-healing powers. No matter what comes: you trust your strength!
Forgiveness reconnects you to love
Forgiveness s the key to reconnecting with your inner child, healing old wounds and living love. "Forgiveness was and is also a big topic in my own life and has given me so much joy and creativity back," admits Laura Malina Seiler . The author of "May you be happy" even says: "My most valuable insight is that forgiveness is the only way that connects you with love again."
Concerning our topic "overcoming fears," this means: Perhaps there were key people in the situation at that time who made you afraid or who triggered your anxiety. Here is also an excellent exercise that we would like to share with you:
Close your eyes.
Make yourself comfortable in a chair. Feel your feet under the ground. Think of the person who was involved in the situation. Can you see them in your mind's eye? Connect with them: Let all your compassion flow to them and say to the person: "I forgive you. I forgive you, and I ask you to forgive me too. Because I am part of you and you are part of me."
Now imagine how the other person will say these two sentences to you too.
Thank the person who is standing in front of you. Maybe now you can hug the person too.
The moment you forgive, you are free and give yourself your strength back. And your fear is getting smaller and smaller and smaller...
Letting go of fears: What happens when you succeed?
Overcoming your fears is not the guarantee that you will no longer feel fear. But over time you will find that it no longer has control over you. You will meet it differently. Perhaps even notice early on - if a special situation arises again - that it is your fear that you have known for a long time. At this moment, you can ask yourself if you want to give it control again or whether you accept them, let them be. By giving your fear space to show itself, at least for a moment, it gets smaller every time. This knowledge alone will bring you so much healing. Above all, more and more inner peace when another frightening situation is imminent.
Overcoming fears with the help of the Greator Coach training
Letting go of fears - that is a very important topic during the training to become a Greator Coach. Do you want to free yourself from your inner limitations finally? This is exactly what you will learn in our Greator Coach training! Look forward to a nine-month journey to yourself. To more clarity. To more inner peace. Look forward to many insights that will, above all, help you finally to understand what makes you tick, what makes others tick and why you get annoyed so quickly with some people or in certain situations. Why you feel fear in certain scenarios ... You will see how quickly things come about in your life that may not yet be clear. Meet your fears. Meet your beliefs. Open yourself to new thoughts. Let the sparkle back into your life!