What would you do if you were not afraid at all? What would you do if you knew that it would work out no matter what? What would you do if it was easy for you? Dr. Stefan Frädrich knows: "Many people know what they should do. But they don't do what they know." Why is that? The successful entrepreneur says: "I would like to try to explain it with the help of a bonsai tree. The bonsai tree is a real tree. It is only so small because you keep it artificially small. You cut off its roots and leaves and keep it in a small pot."
If you asked the bonsai tree if it knew that there was a big one in it, what would it answer? The little tree would probably vehemently deny the statement. Stefan Frädrich: "How does growth work? Growth means first of all that you need space. Imagine the bonsai tree would want to grow in its pot. It would always come up against a limit and couldn't go beyond that limit." In short, organic growth means that you first need to create space to grow into.
Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "Creating structures for growth„
The expert knows that many people stop growing in the course of their lives. They accept that they have reached an end point in certain areas, and then they stop. Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "The rule is always the same: You have to create space first - and then you grow into that space. Most people think to themselves: I will grow at some point, if I have to. And then it's often too late."
At some point in life, safety mode prevails. One becomes cautious and no longer forces growth. Mceases to learn new things, entrusting itself with new tasks and striving for personal or professional growth. At a certain point, you no longer want to develop yourself further. But that is a pity! Because all you would have to do would be to make room. Space that you would then grow into more or less automatically. Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "You have to create the structures - then you grow into the structure."
Leave comfort zone
Many people feel quite comfortable in their comfort zone. They have been growing for a while in their lives, have acclimatized and are now in safe mode. They reject new challenges. Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "This is standstill. This is no longer possible. And that's quite a shame, because the only thing we need to get out of the comfort zone are challenges we accept." The vast majority of borders do not really exist, but are merely imagined. What is it that keeps people from doing something? Fear. Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "We have three primal fears: fear of failure, fear of overwork and fear of social rejection." Today we speak of perfectionism, laziness and shyness. But the worst mistake in times when everything changes is the mistake of doing nothing. Learning is making mistakes.
Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "My three tips for more courage!“
Learning means to get involved in new things with a positive inner attitude. Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "We have to take calculated risks, because growth requires a certain amount of courage. Being courageous does not mean not being afraid. It means doing the right thing even though you are afraid." That's why I'm going to give you three practical tips for more courage:
- Consider whether you can get rid of your fear with the following equation: Fear = (fear x probability) / (competence + help)
- Anxiety is often characterized by shallow breathing in the chest and neck area. Try to breathe away your fear. The exhalation should take longer than the inhalation.
- Talk to yourself in your mind the way you would talk to a good friend. Create as many positive affirmations in your mind as possible. Say to yourself, "I'm going to do this."
You're doing this now because you are not a bonsai tree! Dr. Stefan Frädrich: "We need courage. And courage means doing things you didn't dare to do before - that's the trick. So get out of your comfort zone! Courage means that you leave your comfort zone. And it means with attitude: I'm gonna do this. My favorite quote is from Kurt Marti and it's, "Where would we go if everyone said 'Where would we go' and no one even looked at where you went when you left. See where you'd go. "Start walking - for the walker has the road under his feet."
Good luck and have a good trip!