Were you happy just a moment ago, but suddenly your mood changes and the slightest change makes you incredibly sad? If something doesn't go according to plan, do you get angry very quickly or want to throw in the towel immediately? Do your emotions seem to be on a rollercoaster? In this article, we give you tips on how to improve your emotional stability and strengthen your emotional world.
When it comes to emotional stability, it's not about downplaying feelings or even pushing them aside - quite the opposite. Rather, it's all about not letting your feelings influence you to such an extent that they determine your everyday life. You are able to control them to the extent that you can continue to cope with important tasks in life and they don't immediately throw you completely off track.
Emotional stability therefore means that you emotions and accept them, but do not feel at their mercy.
When it comes to emotional stability, the Mindfulness your rock in the surf. It marks something constant that always gives you stability, even when your emotions are on a rollercoaster.
Mindful handling of your emotions helps you to fully perceive your current emotions. It is precisely this awareness that you need in order to process them. Emotional stability requires you to recognize and accept your feelings. If you just push them aside or swallow them down, they will build up and at some point they will burst out of you like lava from a volcano. This is exactly what you need to avoid. If you master this, you will enjoy emotional stability.
Find a quiet spot and make yourself comfortable. Sit down comfortably or lie down if you prefer. Close your eyes and take a deep breath.
What exactly are you feeling at this moment? What emotion is currently present? Are you happy? Is something making you grumpy? Are you currently annoyed about something or are you perhaps even angry or sad?
Accept this emotion and allow yourself to really feel it. Don't judge yourself, because it's perfectly okay to feel certain things. Then try to recognize why you feel this way. What situation has triggered this emotion in you? Or is there perhaps no clearly recognizable reason at all?
In this way, you learn to perceive your feelings better and deal with them well. In short: you learn emotional stability. Of course, this takes some practice. But you will see that the more often you face your emotions, allow yourself to feel them and discuss where they come from, you will experience a whole new level of inner balance.
You look in the mirror and say to yourself: "I like the way I am." You know exactly what you can do and that you do a great job. In short: you are self-confident.
Today just wasn't your day? Nothing went according to plan and you may even have had to deal with a setback or two? As an emotionally stable person, you simply carry on. You don't let it upset you.
Moping around for the rest of the week? Not with you! You shake off the failure because you know that if you bury your head in the sand now, you won't make any progress.
Nothing upsets you that quickly. You are not at all familiar with an almost uncontrolled up and down of emotions, especially not for no reason. Of course you get grumpy when you receive bad news and are happy when something great happens to you. But your emotions are always based on clear events.
If a dispute arises, you can use a Keep a cool head. Of course, a conflict can also become emotional at times. However, you don't lose your temper straight away and, as an emotionally stable person, you are always careful to remain fair in an argument and resolve disagreements as diplomatically as possible.
You don't act impulsively. When you are dealing with a situation overwhelmed you withdraw from it and ask for a moment to think about the situation. Thanks to your emotional stability, it is important for you to Time and not to say or do anything that you might regret later. It's better to think a second longer than to act rashly.
If you lack emotional stability, you are often plagued by inner restlessness. You spend an incredible amount of time worrying about things that aren't worth it and may even neglect your everyday tasks. You find it difficult to concentrate. This in turn can have a negative impact on your work performance. If your concentration level drops, your Productivity and sooner or later this can cause you problems at work.
The same applies at university or school. Emotional stability allows you to be less easily upset by your feelings. Nevertheless, you still get your work done and can concentrate on the important things - all in good time.
If you lack emotional stability, this can also have a negative impact on your relationships. This applies equally to love, friendship and family. People around you find it difficult to understand why you are having an emotional outburst. They often don't understand why tears are streaming down your cheeks and when they ask you what's going on, you often can't give an answer yourself. This in turn naturally unsettles the people around you.
What is the best way for them to deal with you? They become cautious because they fear that even small things can upset you enormously. This makes a happy, balanced relationship very difficult.
Perhaps you are also asking yourself why you lack emotional stability. You don't really know what exactly is causing it because you simply can't see any. Quickly come Self-doubt because if you don't know why you feel the way you do, at some point your confidence in yourself may dwindle.
The biggest challenge in strengthening emotional stability is acknowledging feelings. It is often assumed that the reason for excessive emotionality is that we get caught up in feelings, which is why they should be pushed aside. But this is precisely the wrong approach.
Dare to really acknowledge your feelings, even if it may be unpleasant. It is important that you jump over your shadow and allow yourself to feel and go into yourself. Only then can you gain emotional stability.
Heart or head - how often do you ask yourself this question? But one doesn't have to exclude the other. It's the balance that counts. It's important that you don't act rashly. As a very emotional person, you probably tend to act quickly on impulse. But that's not always the right approach.
In situations that are emotionally overwhelming, take a few minutes and communicate this openly. The other person will understand and allow you this moment. It's best to leave the room and allow yourself a few moments alone with your thoughts. Ask yourself why you are feeling this way right now and whether the extent of your emotions are in a comprehensible relationship to the event.
Are you feeling more intensely than the situation actually warrants? Become aware of your emotional state, accept it and then take another look at the situation. Also put yourself in the other person's shoes. Now it will be easier for you to react appropriately to what has happened and find a balance between your heart and your head.
Are you constantly under stress? Do you simply get nothing done? Do you take no time for yourself? Do you feel like you're only living for others and you and your own Needs to completely neglect yourself? Then it's hardly surprising that you're unbalanced inside. This is also reflected in your emotional state.
Surround yourself with people who are good for you. Take at least a few minutes of me-time every day, even if it's just a relaxing shower in the evening. Cook your favorite meal in the evening or watch that movie you've been wanting to see for ages. You're allowed to do something for yourself and nobody will hold it against you.
