When things go wrong, do you explode - or are you more the type to suppress your feelings? Emotions are human, but at work and in private life, it is sometimes necessary to hold back. However, suppressing your feelings in the long term is not good for you. Ideally, you should find the right balance between emotionality and self-control. Find out how to do this here.
If you often bang the table and shout, there's something wrong with your emotional control. Are you bottling everything up? Not a good idea either. Do you cry easily? This can be liberating in some situations, but it can also be embarrassing. But they always say it's good, Showing feelingsinstead of suppressing them.
There are several reasons for suppressing your feelings:
So in many situations, it seems better not to let your feelings out. You suppress them and postpone the outburst until later. The problem is that you also suppress the positive emotions. This may help your Career may help at first, but your mental health may suffer as a result.
People who have spent years and decades Suppressing feelingsoften forget what they actually want. That's why you shouldn't ignore your emotions permanently. Otherwise the risk of mental illness increases. Then you may be a successful manager, but suffer from Loneliness - even if you suppress this thought.
Of course, your team will be happy if you remain cool even in a problematic situation. At first, this seems more relaxed than if you throw a choleric fit or even burst into tears. But you can't always suppress your feelings: That won't make them go away.
You may infect your colleagues with your coldness. This has an unfavorable effect on the working atmosphere and also on your leadership qualities.
Typical Symptoms of suppressed feelings indicate that you should change something:
It's not just sensitive people who suffer in such a situation. When the emotional intelligence If the energy consumption decreases, this has a negative effect on the entire environment.
The Mindfulness dealing with your own feelings plays an important role in your private life and at work. First of all, it is about dealing with the negative thoughts and feelings. Relaxation exercises and other awareness techniques help you to focus on the positive things.
Self-care and positive thoughts should not only distract you, but also stabilize your emotions. It's not about suppressing unpleasant emotions. After all, they are part of life. Nevertheless, sometimes you want to suppress your negative feelings and forget about them altogether.
However, being mindful of your feelings cannot work if you repress something. There is also a risk that you will miss out on positive emotions. So leave enough space for your feelings instead of suppressing them.
Incidentally, when men suppress their feelings, this is more often accepted than when women do so. This is still based on the role stereotype of the emotional woman. But suppressing feelings like love and affection doesn't work anyway.
So how can you strengthen your emotional mindfulness without letting your feelings guide you too much?
You can get to the root of your feelings with Self-reflection on the track. Coaching can also help. Suppressing feelings can be a form of self-protection, a kind of escape reflex from the world around you and from your negative emotions.
When you think about yourself, it's important that you don't judge yourself. Not even for the negative thoughts and feelings. You don't have to do this alone: Your partner or a good friend can help you.
Depending on the situation, it may make sense to talk to a coach or therapist. Otherwise, the emotional problem can become a psychological problem.
Sometimes you're angry as hell, then more anxious or deeply sad. What a load of crap! Naturally, you want to suppress such negative feelings. But it's much more liberating to be able to express your emotions. acceptas they are. Because they usually have a good reason.
You can learn this acceptance so that the Dealing with your emotions will soon be easier. Mindfulness and self-reflection will help you with this. Over time, you will react appropriately to your feelings and get to know yourself better and better. Self-control the relaxed way - sounds good, right?
Coaching is a fantastic tool for you to find out why you find it difficult to express your feelings. There may have been a formative experience in your childhood that still blocks you from expressing what is going on inside you.
With Meditation you bring more calm into your emotional life. If you exercise regularly, you will no longer get annoyed so easily by pesky neighbors or an irascible boss. Your environment also benefits from this. Meditation helps you to get your negative feelings under control. And that's different from suppressing your feelings.
This is precisely why even simple meditative practices have a positive effect on your Emotional stability. Before you get angry, do a short breathing exercise or think of a beautiful place - and you will feel less overwhelmed and can act more relaxed. You may not have control over your feelings, but you can control your reaction.
Depending on the situation, it can be important to share your emotions. But to do this, you first have to Accept feelings. When you are in a relaxed mode, open and constructive communication is possible.
There are various ways to accept and communicate your feelings, for example:
With a mindful lifestyle, you can get a better grip on your emotions without suppressing them. In this way, you build up protection against psychological and psychosomatic complaints. The following practices help you to cope with everyday life without too much emotional stress:
Do you tend to suppress or ignore your feelings? You should change this, because this avoidance strategy will harm you in the long term. Suppressing your feelings will eventually make you ill. It is healthier to get to know your emotions better through self-reflection and mindfulness. This will soon allow you to deal with your feelings openly without hiding or exaggerating them.
In the Masterclass on conflict resolution is also about self-awareness and behavior in everyday conflict situations. Here, too, you will learn how to stop suppressing your emotions and get to the bottom of them. This will not only help you at work. You will also bring more harmony into your private relationships. So it's worth it - especially because you'll automatically be able to deal with a lot more Lightness go through life.
