Hooponopono: Hawaiian forgiveness ritual for more peace of mind

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Hooponopono: Hawaiian forgiveness ritual for more peace of mind

Surely there has been one or another situation in your life in which you have been hurt - whether intentionally or unintentionally. Over time, the memory of this event often turns into resentment or even hatred. However, this harms you first and foremost. You may also find yourself resenting something you said or did. In both cases Hooponopono can pave the way to forgiveness. This is a forgiveness ritual originating from Hawaii.

Resentful thoughts prevent you from making inner peace. Forgiveness, on the other hand, makes you mentally and physically healthy. This is even proven by current Studies. In this article you will learn more about Hooponopono and its effect.

Hooponopono: What is it anyway?

As already mentioned, Hooponopono originates from Hawaii. The ritual looks back on a long tradition there. Literally translated, the term means something like "to make up for a mistake" or "to put something right". In earlier times, Hooponopono was mainly practiced by the Hawaiian shamans, the so-called Kahunas.

In the meantime, however, modern science is also dealing with the topic around the Forgiveness ritual.

Even today, many Hawaiian extended families use the ancient forgiveness ritual to resolve conflicts or even alleviate ailments. Here, the whole family sits down together, discusses the problem together and finally performs the ritual.

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How does the ritual work?

In the Hawaiian forgiveness ritual Hooponopono, the following four phrases (mantras) play a crucial role:

  • 1. "I'm sorry."
  • 2. "Please forgive me."
  • 3. "I love you."
  • 4. "Thank you."

Say these sentences calmly and deliberately one after the other. The above order is only exemplary, you do not have to follow it exactly. Instead of starting with the confession of repentance, you can also start with the expression of love: This is entirely up to you.

Let's take a closer look at the individual mantras and their meaning:

Step 1: Regret

What do you want to apologize for? Consciously recall the situation in question. Memory. Take responsibility for your actions and do not look for excuses. Even allegedly unfavorable external circumstances are not a free pass for bad behavior. You alone decide how you deal with negative influences!

Step 2: Forgiveness

Ask for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart. It makes no difference whom you ask. If you do not honest the whole forgiveness ritual is ineffective. You can, of course, ask for forgiveness yourself.

Step 3: Love

No matter what has happened, signal your unconditional love to the person or situation. This does not mean that you have to approve of someone hurting you. However, everyone makes mistakes: your love should not diminish that. Of course, this also applies to yourself.

Step four: Gratitude

There are numerous reasons to grateful to be. This can be both big and small things. Thank yourself and others! Be grateful for your Bodywho does great things for you every day. Be grateful for your friends and family who support you. Give thanks for the forgiveness you receive through Hooponopono.

Interesting to know: In the United States, Hooponopono is now a recognized form of therapy. This is mainly due to the efforts of the Hawaiian-born physician Dr. Hew Len.

Prayer, healing and meditation

The modern practice of the forgiveness ritual is limited to the above four sets of mantras. However, it is also possible to perform the forgiveness ritual in the form of a somewhat longer prayer. For this, you add the mantra phrases according to the situation.

Example: Hooponopono prayer for your inner child

DISCI am sorry, that I held on to my fear and feelings of inferiority for so long. My inner child, please forgive methat I have hurt you. I can forgive myself now. I also forgive all the people who have hurt me. I love you and me as we are. You are always there for me, I thank you for that. I thank my family and all the people who accompany me on my life's journey. I thank you for the self-knowledge and for my inner healing."

In the same way, you can forgive a friend or a stranger. The principle is always the same:

"I am sorry that I hurt you with (insert situation). My friend, please forgive me (...)."


If you don't like to pray, you can meditate instead. With Hooponopono it is namely not It is crucial that the person you want to forgive is present locally. You can also perform the ritual alone!

Find a quiet place to meditate where you are completely undisturbed. Turn off your cell phone and all other sources of interference. By the way, it is best to meditate in the early morning hours, when you have not yet been exposed to any stress. If you like, you can dim the lights, put on some soft music and light a few candles or incense sticks to create the right mood.

Get into a comfortable position and close your eyes. Now we need the four "magic phrases" again. Repeat the mantras in your mind. Make sure your breathing is calm and steady. If your thoughts wander quickly, guided hooponopono-Meditations be a good option for you.

What are the advantages of Hooponopono?

Why would you perform such an exotic-sounding forgiveness ritual like Hooponopono? There are several reasons:

  • The ritual helps you to achieve more peace of mind, joy and freedom.
  • Hooponopono frees you from negative feelings such as fear, guilt and doubt.
  • It supports you in reflecting on your own behavior and thus in admitting mistakes: the first step towards Change!
  • Hooponopono helps you to put yourself in other people's shoes: Why does someone act the way they do?
  • It gives you courage, strength and Self-confidence.
  • Hooponopono strengthens your trust in God and your confidence.
  • The method helps you overcome the injustice you have suffered so that it does not affect you in your future.

In which life situations is Hooponopono helpful?

As already explained, Hooponopono is mainly used to find inner peace. This involves coming to terms with unpleasant situations. These can be the following stresses:

  • Separation situations
  • family disputes (also in the past)
  • general improvement of the interpersonal Relationships
  • Processing injustice suffered
  • Clarification of the life energy

5 tips for more forgiveness with Hooponopono

Now you have already learned a lot about the Hawaiian forgiveness ritual Hooponopono. However, especially if you have not been very spiritually inclined, you may find it difficult to practice the ritual consistently. Therefore, we would like to give you five practical tips for everyday life:

1. regularity

To internalize the forgiveness ritual, you should use it as often as possible. Integrate Hooponopono into your daily life by performing the ritual consistently with any kind of conflict or problem.

2. nobody is perfect

Every person makes mistakes and sometimes unintentionally hurts his fellow man. When something like this happens to you, you surely wish to be forgiven. Give this grace to other people by forgiving them. Holding on to your anger only harms yourself.

3. compassion

Hooponopono helps you to develop more compassion and understanding. Connect internally with other people. You don't have to be a lone wolf, but deserve attention and support. You are so much stronger in a team! Make yourself aware of this again and again. Hooponopono means togetherness and unity.

4. salvation

Forgiveness not only unburdens your soul, but also takes the burden off the shoulders of those you have forgiven. It feels good to make other people feel better (again). Make resentful thoughts Past not undone and prevent a positive view of the future.

5. responsibility and Mindfulness

We tend to shift the responsibility for everything that happens on the "outside". However, this is the wrong approach. Ultimately, you are responsible for how you mentally interpret external stimuli. Be benevolent and forgiving. If you believe that the world is friendly to you, you will go through life happier.


Hooponopono is an uncomplicated forgiveness ritual that requires neither compact prior knowledge nor preparation. The short version consists of four simple but expressive mantra phrases. However, in order for Hooponopono to have its desired effect, it is important that you mean each phrase with fervor. Who is only half-hearted in the matter, will feel no effect.

The goal of Hooponopono is to forgive oneself and others. This is difficult for many people, because forgiveness is often equated with absolution for unjust deeds. However, this is a mistake. Rather, it is about one's own inner peace and responsibility. Unpleasant situations happen again and again in life: But you decide how you judge them.

Used correctly, Hooponopono can help you achieve more. Satisfaction and inner balance. Free your soul from dark thoughts and resentment.

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