"Life doesn't always play out the way we want it to. On the contrary, it plays out like the first pattern we recognize when we come into the world: the pattern of our heartbeat." Tobias Beck is a successful keynote speaker and coach. He knows that life is made up of ups and downs - just like the recorded waves of our heartbeat. He says, "The very first thing that starts to live is our heart. And it is also the last thing we leave this world with."
The challenge, according to the personality expert, is that many adults prefer monotonous normality: "Even though life is up and down, many adults have this zero line. Children, on the other hand, have an automatic desire for more. And children adopt unfiltered everything they perceive in their parents," knows Tobias Beck. If you always convey to your children how hard your work or life is, they will adopt that view.
We only have this one life.Tobias Beck
But that would be more than a pity. Or as Tobias Beck says: "We only have this one life. It starts at some point and it ends at some point. Children have a burning desire for more. They learn to walk, fall down, get back up - quite a few times." Children have perseverance and don't lose faith that eventually it will work out. So why is it that later, in adulthood, we so often lose the Patience with ourselves?
The challenge in life, according to Tobias Beck, is that at some point we run into a black box - mostly between the ages of 20 and 60. He says: "We don't really know what to do and how to behave. And we adults often confuse two important concepts, 'fun' and 'happiness'. Happiness is that feeling when you lie in your bed at night, close your eyes and want to jump up again with gratitude. But not being bombarded from the outside - for example with series and films. That's not happiness. That's fun."
According to the coach, once you understand this difference, you can create an incredibly lead a fulfilled life. And another point also plays a decisive role. Tobias Beck: "No matter what you do, it's important to give back to others. Why do you do what you do? What is your Purpose of existence? Why did you see the light of this world many years ago? Someday, somewhere, the millionaire will crumble into dust next to the beggar. And that's why it's so important that you take the best for yourself from these minimal days you have here."
Do you ever wonder how you're going to do it? How to deal with the constant ups and downs in life? For the successful personality experts, the matter is clear. Tobias Beck: "We need more fits of courage and fewer fits of rage in this society. We need people who are strong for others and willing to make decisions for others - people with big visions in their heads. You are the one who makes the difference in society. There will always be people in your life who will reach out to you. You just have to learn to accept them."
Tobias Beck has now been involved in personal development for many years. A crucial point in his life was the death of the old lady Ruth, whom he met as an 18-year-old during his community service. Ruth left him a letter. He recounts, "That letter changed a lot in my life." Curious? Here comes the content for you:
My dear little friend,
you must have gotten old in all those years. Remember the dreams you had when you were in that ambulance with me? Your eyes were shining like diamonds in the rough. Did you let your dreams come to life? Look, the people who don't just dream their dreams, but actually make them happen, those are the ones who change the world for all of us. Those are the ones that statues are built after in inner cities all over the world. Are you changing the world, my friend?
Did you bring your dreams to life?Ruth
Of course, we can change the world in many different ways. Some teach things to others and sometimes see only small successes in them. Others compose music that reaches people's emotion. You know what? There are people who cry the day they are forced to retire. Those are the ones who really loved what they were doing.
And you're probably going to get angry now, my little friend, while you're reading this letter. And you're going to say, "I've had clubs thrown at me all the time. I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do." And yes, life is not easy. And just for you, it's going to put things in the way so you can show your strength.
If you were healthy rather than sick this morning, you are better off than all the people who will not survive tonight. If you have clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you're better off than 70 percent of your brothers and sisters on this planet. Put your head up and stop whining already, little friend.
In those moments when you manage to be who you really are without thinking about who you should be or what other people might think about you, in those moments your life light shines like a bright star. I want your life to be an exciting journey from this day forward. Because mine is over now.
Quite moving! Tobias Beck's appeal to you is: "I would like you to put your hand on your heart for a moment - because that is where your journey begins, with the first heartbeat. It goes up and down. You are special until the last day."