Self Coaching - Tips, Methods & Tools for the Journey to the Inner Self

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Self-coaching - tips, methods & tools for the journey into the inner self

For some time now, you've been longing for change - a change that will help you grow as a person and make itself clearly felt in all areas of your life. But where should you start? Whether it's a career change, personal development in self-management, or just becoming more aware of your own goals, self-coaching is a proven way to to get to know one's own effectiveness better and by now an essential component of many overarching coaching methods

The conscious examination of your own person, your ways of acting and your emotions is the first step towards inner balance and a change into the positive - and that in almost all areas of life. How self-coaching works and what significance it has in Coaching trainings we will explain to you in the following. 

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What is self-coaching?

In self-coaching you are Coach and coachee in one. You learn different skills that help you to master different situations in life and to become clear about your desires, goals and values. Many people mistakenly equate this with the concept of self-help. But there is an essential difference: While in self-help you follow instructions and advice from other people, in self-coaching you are determined by your own personal needs. alone your inner coachhow you can better manage your life and your actions. 

So self-coaching means a high level of Personal responsibility. It is the enabling, to call intuitive knowledge from the subconscious into consciousness and thus embark on a journey into the self. The most important thing: The energy potentials of a conscious and unconscious nature are in each of us. In order to be able to awaken your inner coach, there are various techniques. With these you have the possibility to look at situations with the necessary distance and to intuitively and self-reflectively steer your life towards success. 

The coaching method goes far beyond pure self-management. It starts where will and discipline have their limits. Thereby your Personality Development full speed ahead. 

What is self-coaching used for and what does it do?

Self-coaching is versatile. As a rule, it serves the Achievement of goals and as support for personal challenges. If you long for change in your career, relationships or lifestyle, it is precisely these areas of life that you can optimize through targeted coaching of your self. Especially in the Personality Development, in the Decision Management and in the Conflict Resolution this method is used. 

Self-coaching is especially good for:

  • the Self-discovery in general (who am I and where do I want to go?)
  • professional self-fulfilment 
  • the fulfilment of personal dreams
  • the development of one's own creativity
  • Relaxation and stress relief
  • the cultivation of trusting relationships
  • a strengthened feeling and handling of emotions
  • the willingness to find solutions in any conflict situation - without shyness
  • learning healthy habits (e.g. healthy eating)
  • long-term performance under high workload
  • the dissolution of decision blockades 
  • the elimination of self-doubt 

What skills does a self-coach need?

The skills for self-coaching are already within each of us. The goal of the Coachings is to bring them out. So that you can do the self-coaching successful for your life, you should, however a well-developed self-awareness possess. First and foremost, it's important to be a good listener to yourself and follow your body signals. Coaching yourself alone, always means honest to your own person. That is guaranteed not always easy. There will be days when things go better and worse. All the more important is your stamina. Accept also have worse days and don't be too hard on yourself if, for example, there is complete chaos of thoughts in your head. Taking these days seriously is exactly the right approach. If you your own harshest critic you can embrace that very thing - in a constructive way, of course. Turning negative voices into positive ones is the name of the game here. 

Self-coaching should be approached step-by-step

How does self-coaching work?

Self-coaching is considered to be a continuous process of own further development. It's about regular Self-reflectionthat should become almost a permanent part of your being. The process can look different for each person. Only the initial steps and impulses that start your own hero's journey are identical.

In general, the self-coaching process can be described in three major steps:

Step 1: Define problems and challenges

The first step is to make sure Thoughts and perceptions that lie below your threshold of consciousness...and you're going to bring it out. As a rule, you deal here with your patterns of action and habits. Then you determine to what extent you wish to change.

Depending on the person, this may also involve unpacking and realizing serious experiences and traumas. Thus is the first confrontation with internal problems exactly the phase in which people can recognize whether they are capable of coaching themselves at all. The more serious the problems, the more obvious it is to seek professional support. Admitting this to themselves costs some people a lot of overcoming. But just the realization that it does not work without help, proves inner strength. 

Step 2: Get clarity & define goals 

The second step is sorting out all the feelings, sensations, hurts and (unfulfilled) desires that have come to light in focus. You create clarity by setting yourself concrete goals that you want to achieve step by step from now on. To do this, it is best to ask yourself the following two questions: What exactly is my goal that I want to achieve with self-coaching? Where am I currently on the path to achieving this goal? Record the answers of the self-reflection in writing. After several weeks in which you have made further progress in your process, you can look back at your answers and perhaps already notice one or two advances. 

NoteBy writing down your goals, you will be more committed and motivated to achieve them. Creativity and willpower will work hand in hand.

Step 3: Determine solution paths

In the third big step, you focus on coming up with concrete ways to solve all the problems and challenges in order to get closer to your goals. A solution-oriented dialogue with yourself opens up a world you never knew existed. The better you get to know yourself, the better you understand other people. Your empathy and strength are promoted. Last but not least, it is precisely these skills that speak for leadership qualities and effective cooperation with different people. 

If you know your goals, desires and values inside and out, you can actively work on your personal growth or personality development. As a result, you're looking suitable methods and tools that feel best to you and that you practice regularly. 

Self coaching means a constant inner tidying up work

Self-coaching methods and tools that support your inner process

There are many tools and methods to help you coach your self, uncover your strengths and weaknesses, and consciously live your values. The journey to the ego can take different lengths of time for each person. Not least because some methods are not suitable for everyone. So you should initially many different self-coaching methods and exercises to build your own catalog.

GROW Coaching

The GROW model is one of the best known Coaching methods, which was originally conceived by Graham Alexander and later perfected by Sir John Whitmore. It is to be understood as a tool that serves to, to initiate the process of self-reflection. Specifically with the help of systemic questions in the right order discovering, working on and realizing desired goals Be. The method describes four concrete action steps: G stands for Goal, to define a goal, R for Reality, to check if you are on the right track. The step O for Options defines possible solutions to your problems and W (=Way forward) is about implementation. In the context of professional coaching, the GROW method is a tool to structure the communication between coach and coachee and to lead to success. 

The SMART Method 

The SMART method is a strategic tool that makes it easier for you to Set goals correctly and achieve them. Whether in the private or professional sense - it is a popular tool to facilitate the planning of your projects and consequently also to record successes. The name of the method stands for the abbreviation of the five criteria that describe the achievement of a goal: Specific, Measurable, Attractive, Realistic, Timed - If a formulated meets all five criteria, it is to be understood as unambiguous and fulfilling. 

Mindfulness Techniques

In a world that is characterized by fast-paced life and constant pressure to succeed, it is all the more important to regularly take a deep breath and arrive in the now. This is also conducive to becoming aware of oneself and being able to steer one's life in the direction that is most conducive for more Satisfaction provides. With the help of Meditationsjournaling or other mindfulness techniques. you are able practice self-reflection and let it become a regularity. The more you have arrived at yourself, accepted the past and defined goals for the future, the easier it is for you to define solutions in the now - all for a life that satisfies you completely. 

Autogenic training & self-hypnosis

Self-hypnosis helps people, to harmonize conscious and unconscious processes with clearly defined goals. In contrast to the usual hypnosis, you put yourself with the Self-hypnosis without the help of others into a relaxed state that allows you to penetrate your subconscious. So you have the opportunity, negative beliefs and replace them with positive ones. 

autogenic training creates an intentional relaxation, which resembles a creative self-hypnosis and is clearly different from the mere Mindfulness distinguishes. The relaxation technique according to Johannes Schultz serves as a tool for independent healing and further development. This is a kind of dialogue with your subconscious mind, which can guide your beliefs into the positive. 

The Horizontal Eight

The Horizontal Eight describes a process in which combines the retrospection into the past of a person with the preview into the future become. This unique coaching method was developed by Christina and Walter Hommelsheim, the founders of the Greator coach training. It helps people to release blockages and to use the energy gained from them for life, which is what the persons strive for. Specifically, this means: You look into your past and look into your future to implement and live the insights in the now. You can learn more about this process - and many others - in our Greator Coaching Practitioner Program.

The advantages and disadvantages of self-coaching

Self-coaching is beneficial in many ways. You can use it anytime, free of charge, undisturbed and for as long as you want. Self-coaching also helps you to, to improve your ability to act and to find solutions by your own efforts - no matter how difficult a situation may seem. With regular Self-reflection you promote your stamina as well as an effective time and self-management. So you reach your goals easier and prevent stress. This is especially beneficial in the career field, which is why self-coaching is very popular among managers. The skills such as critical thinking and creativity that you acquire through your learning process can also be passed on to your future clients.

But the path to a strengthened Self-efficacy and to an unshakable self-confidence is often difficult. Self-coaching also brings disadvantages: often people need the view from the outside and clearly expressed criticism, to uncover their own habits and improve their own actions. In addition, the method requires a high level of self-discipline. This is especially difficult for people suffering from depression or similar psychological stress. Here, help and criticism from outside is recommended. The method is also less suitable for narcissists or people with narcissistic traits. A distorted self-perception becomes a major disadvantage in self-coaching. 

For whom is self-coaching suitable?

Self-coaching is suitable for almost everyone, with the exception of the above-mentioned groups of people, so probably also for you. The prerequisite: You must be willing to get to know yourself better and to listen to yourself honestly and sincerely. It's primarily about, yourself from your Comfort zone move. While a coach can help you with specific - and sometimes unpleasant - questions, with self-coaching you are just depending only on yourself

However, self-coaching is not always the right solution for all problems. If you already notice during the search for goals and starting points (dealing with the past) that you are heavily burdened with it, you can always seek help.

The Greator coach training: Self coaching as a basis

Self coaching is the ideal complement to professional coaching and also an essential component of various methods. In the Greator Coach Training belongs to the Self-coaching on the basis of the holistic approach

If you yourself Become a coach our training is the perfect opportunity for you to get to know yourself better and to develop your full potential. As a certified Greator coach, you will then be able to offer support to others on their journey through your self-learned approaches. 

In our twelve-week programme to the Greator Coach Practicioner you deal intensively with yourself and issues that concern you, similar to self-coaching. This way you can understand yourself - and later your clients. If you wish, this can be followed by the six-month Greator coach training courseIn this course, you will learn all the important coching tools and methods and acquire a comprehensive repertoire of solution strategies. Once you've passed your final exam, you're allowed to certified Greator coach name it. 


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